3 Ways to Reduce Stress

3 Ways to Reduce Stress


Hello and welcome. In this video, we’re going to talk
about three ways to reduce stress. And the first one is to stop
over committing yourself. Now there’s two ways we
can overcommit ourselves. We can overcome it ourselves to other
people, but we can also over commit ourselves to ourselves. And what I mean by that is I’ve seen
people who, who have to do list that this isn’t a to do list, but have to do, is
that look like this, which has 20 plus items on it and their expectation of
themselves is that they’re going to get that done in a single day. And so there’s a lot of tension, a lot of
pressure, and a lot of stress that they put on themselves. And usually by the end of the day. On a good day, maybe they get half that
list done, but on a bad day, they don’t make it even halfway. And what this does is by the end
of the day, they feel defeated. They feel terrible, and they just feel
more stressed about tomorrow because they didn’t complete their to do list today,
which was never going to happen because of how big it was and how impossible it was. So reducing how much we over commit to
ourselves helps to also reduce our stress. And so finding really the essential
few things that we need to get done and allowing there to be some room
in there for us to breathe. For us to enjoy our life
a little bit is important. And then also back to the other angle,
which is over committing to people is a lot of, I see a lot of people say “yes”
when they really mean no or say yes when they really don’t know
if it’s a for sure “yes.” And then in that same line of thinking, I
see a lot of people who are unwilling to take it back, take their “yes” back and
say, “you know what, I actually really can’t.” And so they end up going and doing these
things with the people they’ve over committed to, whether it be going out with
a friend or maybe it’s, you know, they’ve over committed to getting a project done
at a certain deadline when they really couldn’t get it done. Instead of saying, “you know,
let me get back to you on that.” I don’t know if I actually have enough
time to do that and this, this, this isn’t a no, but this also isn’t a yes. It allows you to think it through and to
see if you can do that thing rather than continue to over commit yourself. So this is the first part. The next is to simplify your life. So if you’ve got a lot of complicated
things going on in your life, oftentimes it has to do with objects and
desires and things like that. Always wanting the newest, shiniest
object or the newest, shiniest piece of technology, and you kind of start to
accumulate junk and stuff that you really don’t need in your house and
your office and your life. This starts to just create a lot more
stress because now you’ve got all this stuff here, and if you actually observe
people who have messy spaces or, or live in a mess, they’re usually
very erratic people. They’re, they’re under a lot of stress. And I’ve even heard people, you’ve
probably heard people say too, is like, “Oh, I work best when I, you know, I know
where everything is in my office” and it’s just a total wreck. And there’s papers everywhere and
people know where everything it is. And that’s true. You can absolutely know where
everything is in a mess. But it doesn’t make you less stressed. It doesn’t mean you’re
a less stressed person. And I’ve seen a lot of these people who,
who say this, and sure enough, they know where everything is, but
they’re also very restless. They have a lot of tension, a lot of
stress in their life and their mind and in their body. And so it’s worth understanding where that
comes from is if you’re using your mind to remember where everything is in your mess,
you’re using up a lot of energy that could be used towards something else. And the third is to make
time for genuine relaxation. And when I say that is these days
we have so many distractions. We’ve got iPads, we’ve got phones,
we’ve got Netflix, we’ve got Disney plus nowadays we’ve got all these things that
we can kind of passively do that a lot of us think we’re relaxing, but we’re not
actually really relaxing, especially if you’re on your phone going through
social media and things like that. A lot of people will kick
back they’ll be on the phone. “I’m relaxing right now”,
but that’s not relaxation. Relaxation has to do with actually being
able to relax your nervous system, relax your mind, bring down the mental chatter
chatter, and enter into a state of inner relaxation. And so this can only happen if you start
to enter into states of meditation. So meditation can help with this. Doing slow exercises. So, doing some, maybe some yoga, some
yin yoga is a more relaxed type of yoga asanas. And so doing things that don’t involve us,
you know, absorbing our attention into a movie or, you know, a phone. There’s nothing wrong with that. Just understanding that there’s a
difference between relaxation and entertainment. Entertainment’s fun and it’s, that’s
movies that’s being on the phone, social media, that’s entertainment. We’re entertaining ourselves. And that’s totally fine to do, but making
a little bit of time, at least a little bit each day to enter into a state of
genuine relaxation can bring down our stress quite a bit. And it also allows us to handle stress a
lot more to handle stressful situations a little bit more gracefully
every time we do that. So, those are the three little
tips I have for reducing stress. I hope you enjoyed them, and if you do,
feel free to leave me a comment or share them around with a friend who you think
might find some value in this video as well, and I can’t wait to
see you in the next video.

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