5 Psychological Traps Holding you Back

5 Psychological Traps Holding you Back


in this video I’m gonna be teaching you
five psychological traps that are holding you back so have you ever heard
the phrase it’s not you it’s me a lot of people say that when they break up with
someone right well once you learn the psychological traps that I’m going to
teach you in this video you might start saying it’s not me it’s just my brain
your brain can trick you into believing things that aren’t real your brain can
also trick you into ignoring things that are real it’s not always your brains
fault there’s an infinite amount of things that your brain needs to sort
through take in and remember at any given moment
sometimes the thing your brain chooses to see or interpret aren’t always so
encouraging so it’s got to do what it’s got to do to stay positive
beware of the following psychological traps and think about how your brain
could be tricking you once you start to see these tricks play out in life you
can take a step back look at a situation more realistically and figure out which
thought patterns are more likely to help you succeed so number one is something
called the illusory correlation the illusory correlation is a trick that
tells people that two events are related just because they happened within a
similar time frame for example a person started having a headache and received a
phone call five minutes later then they swear it happened again the next week
before you know it they’re telling everyone they know that they can predict
when their phone is going to ring with their head superstitions and weird
remedies and wives tales may come out of the illusory correlation it can also
convince some people that they’re just bad luck or that they bring a negative
energy to situations that end up always going wrong don’t mistake causation with
coincidence because of the illusory correlation if you start to recognize
yourself using the illusory correlation take a step back think to yourself could
these two things really be related if the answer’s no then they’re probably
not and if they are you can get ready to start your new research project due to
this effect you might have some limiting beliefs about yourself you might not
think that you’re good at math you might not think that you’re capable of
starting a business there’s a ton of other limiting beliefs that you might
have keep watching this video to learn how to conquer your limiting beliefs
even the ones that you don’t know that you have psychological trap number two
that is holding you back is the actor-observer effect so if you’re a
performer there are two ways to look at a performance that was not well-received
number one you can think I’m just a bad performer or number two you can think
the audience was terrible this time and they just didn’t understand any of my
art these two explanations show that I me of the actor-observer effect when you
frame yourself as causing or contributing to a situation you are the
actor when you frame external actors then you’re called the observer and it’s
the difference between saying I’m not good enough or I haven’t been given the
chance to show that I’m good enough I’m not telling you to stay on one side
because only choosing to be the actor can make you feel down when things go
bad on the other hand only choosing to be the observer may make you feel as
though you don’t have any responsibility or control in life so rather than
choosing one or the other try to explain events using both types of statements
that should allow you to see things more truly evaluate the differences and how
each explanation could direct your path moving forwards psychological trap
number three is the pressure to say yes now this phenomenon doesn’t really have
a fancy name but you might be familiar with it in the workplace or at your
house you may feel the pressure to say yes to other people and help them in any
way that you can maybe your cousin needs a babysitter for next Saturday even
though that it’s your night to relax and unwind maybe your boss wants to give you
an extra assignment even though you’re already swamped with work but you say
yes to all of these obligations anyways because you don’t want to disappoint the
person who is asking for the favor the most likely cause of this is that you’re
just very agreeable if you take the big five personality test you’ll probably
score above an 80 on agreeableness no it’s not necessarily a good thing and
it’s also not necessarily a bad thing it’s just a personality trait however
when a person with this trait is put in different situations it can be bad that
was solution to this trap is by taking more time to think about your answer get
into the habit of saying can I get back to you on that or maybe even just know
instead of an automatic yes when you have time to sit and think about your
schedule ask yourself the following questions is this truly an obligation or
is it a favor am I the only or last person available to do this task and if
I say no can I recommend someone else because in most cases you probably know
someone who could help that person out even if the answer to the last question
is no don’t feel pressured to say yes it’s a lot harder to backpedal and get
out of an obligation then did you say that you’re unavailable in the first
place psychological trap number four is expectations based on your gender your
race or even other labels girls play with dolls boys play with trucks we feel
the pressure of stereotypes from before we are even born when stereotypes
that someone might not be smart or that another person might be stuck-up we try
not to believe them but unfortunately if we’re told something enough we do start
to believe it whether we want to or not we may believe stereotypes about others
or stereotypes about ourselves so remember we are exposed to these
stereotypes even before we’re born these psychological tricks can set in from an
early age a recent study revealed that gender
stereotypes prevent girls from believing that they’re exceptionally smart as
early as the age of six when people don’t think that they’re capable of
succeeding they usually won’t try due to the self-fulfilling prophecy think about
it six is a young age imagine how much you can miss out on if you stop
believing in yourself at age six and I don’t mean just girls there’s all kinds
of limiting beliefs out there you have probably started having doubts about
yourself at a young age even if you weren’t aware of it at the time
unlearning these types of stereotypes can be very uncomfortable and a pretty
scary process in some cases but it can help you open yourself up to a whole new
world and have an even greater potential then you might have thought you had
before the last psychological trap is something called the status quo bias it
can be really hard to unlearn things that we thought to be true in the past
this in itself is a psychological trick the status quo bias is a psychological
tendency to resist change and prefer the current state of affairs it basically
means we don’t like change it greatly contributes to the tension between
Millennials baby boomers and other generations who might have preferred
things the way that they experienced it whenever they grew up so why do we want
to stick to the status quo well the answer lies in with another phenomenon
something called anchoring our brains tend to use the first exposure to
anything as a reference point if we’re first exposed to eating with their hands
at every meal as weird as this might seem to you someone will believe that
that’s the way to eat if we’re first exposed to expensive clothing and
expensive cars then we will believe that this is a standard for our material
purchases if someone were to threaten this reference point by handing you a
knife or a fork we’re taking your ability to buy luxury items you might
seriously want to go back to the way that things were before as you start to
unwind these psychological traps ask yourself does this make me uncomfortable
because it challenges my status quo so here’s a short little summary number one
was the illusory correlation that is causing false superstitions because of
your belief number two was the actor-observer effect it is when you
change who you blame because of your beliefs number
three is the pressure to say yes which is basically feeling guilty because of
your behavior number four is expectations based on
labels so this trap can cause you to change your behavior because of your
belief about what society says about you and number five was status quo bias
basically that we don’t like to unlearn new things that we first formed beliefs
about so if you take a look at these five psychological traps that are
holding you back you’ll notice that they’re all changeable and they all have
to do with beliefs well I want to let you know I recently finished creating a
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about what beliefs truly are how you can find your limiting beliefs and
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example in this video number four was that expectations can hold you back I
have a very specific video in this course titled succumbing to labels that
teaches you why this happens and how to stop it there’s over two hours of
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Comments

(51 Comments)

  • Discover Your Awesomeness

    If you haven’t found something strange during the day it hasn’t been much of a day. ÷

  • Dylon Garrett - Investing and Personal Finance

    What if I have 10 holding me back?

  • P K

    1st like

  • O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me

    Fear of failure
    Procrastination
    Not having a goal
    Making excuses
    Low self-esteem

  • K P

    13th like

  • Arshed Mehdi

    Awesome dude

  • Happy Face

    If you are commenting 2nd like or 16th like then this video is absolutely for you…

  • Mr Puss

    1st

  • Сергей Кручина

    When I saw the thumbnail, I thought about the other kind of traps for some reason…

  • Kamran Siddiqui

    At first I heard "girls play with dolls, boys play with drugs" 😂

  • Kamran Siddiqui

    For anyone in the beginning of the video, scrolling through comments, when he says that he'll tell you how to slay thpse limiting beliefs, don't get your hopes too high, he's just gonna tell u about a course he made on that topic

  • HjorGaming

    Can you breakdown yingyang, how important balance is

  • maal dayr

    Hey can you check out "My Moms Was A Stripper Podcast" on my page. Thanks in advance everybody!

    ……

  • Mrhn Jezkq

    Whop whop, quality content, thanks man.

  • ben miled amine

    Can you make a social anxiety videos like some sort of challenges

  • Mindprovement

    I think agreeableness is a very good trait to have in this age. It can make you very adaptable and skilled. But yeah not being able to say no can be a downside, but only if you let it be !!

  • Your Favorite Lifecoach

    Negative habits are driven by negative thoughts.. the way to break that cycle is by language and posture. Talk differently, stand up straight, move more!

  • Moses Emmet

    I used to make so many excuses and rightly so, my childhood was a nightmare. BUT I had to stop blaming everything else, stop making excuses and start taking responsibly before I really started to see positive things happen. 👉🏽💰

  • VEGA

    What about my addiction to prescription strength narcotics

  • BadBoyD TV *No-BS Empowerment Channel*

    I'm not going to add to the knowledge you already bestowed like the others at the top here all I'm gonna say is
    💥BadBoyD TV💥 is pretty dope!! Much Love folks👊

  • UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS

    Our mind is the biggest thing that holds us back 🔥

  • Navraj Singh

    Can you please review the book: The Practising Mind?
    The book really only explore how to be present to get out the most of anything.

  • Adam Korniejczuk

    When you will publish your personality test?

  • Arturo Cabello

    Never let your doubts stop you from living your dreams! 🙂

  • The Life Formula

    The status quo bias is definitely something we have to watch out for. We often live in a bubble and we dont know it

  • Mentor My Life

    The brain is such a powerful tool. If you can learn to control it, you will take over any aspect of life you will want. Awesome video again – Kushtrim

  • Airsoft Review Argentina

    #5 is also called The Backfire Effect. Good video!

  • Gricuz YT

    Niceeee. Recommendation vids for 3 a.m

  • Faron Iron

    That does it! I'm fixed! It works guys, just by mere exposure to this information, I'm no longer a fucking idiot, I'm just an idiot. Jk, lol please everyone try LSD, have a nice day.

  • Giulia G

    Sub ita?

  • Practical Inspiration

    The pressure to say yes is something I used to struggle with, but it's impossible to do everything, and saying yes all the time isn't going benefit anyone

  • MotiveVideoBook

    "limiting beliefs about yourself" —> need to reprogram ///

  • Luka Hauptmann

    Ahhh I love psychology 🤙

  • Michael Nolan

    Great Video! Noticed you spelled Effect wrong on the last “Overview”. Keep up the great work!

  • StrawMan

    Reg. number 4: Gender studies is a political movement, not a real science. They are making their statistics with a strong agenda in mind. So many of them have been found to be deliberately manipulated. I would be very skeptical about their propaganda, err… I mean research.

  • Wangui Patrick

    Always educational. Representing Kenya here

  • king nick

    “It’s not me it’s you I promise”

  • Skull

    Your brain can also trick you into thinking it's seperate from yourself.

  • Michael Garcia

    no music? how about a change in background music?

  • Xander Guldie

    I wish I learned these things years ago

  • Aman Rathore

    where is music?

  • Min Cao

    In summary, every trap is a wrong belief. Keep an open mind and believe in yourself.
    1. the illusory correlation (you developed somewhere such that you have self-limiting belief);
    2. actor-observer effect (a little like black-white dichotomy belief, belief everything has only one reason, wrong belief of the causes);
    3. the pressure to say yes (or the belief you need to say yes, learn to say let me think about it, or just no and later yes);
    4. expectations based on labels (wrong belief because what the society and others believe);
    5. status quo bias (wrong believe about the things you are used to and accustomed to).

  • neva mind

    what are we supposed to do when we dont like change? i didnt quiet understand

  • nixon moffett

    Any of u guys know how to get rid of or lessen depression

  • Matthew Gosney

    Why do you make it look like you are actually drawing this?

  • Lusor Jonny

    3:00 This woman is missing an eye

  • William Cruz

    I could never use a resource that cites people like JP, unsubbed

  • Matthew Gonzalez

    Trump challenged the liberal status quo 🙌🏻

  • MGTOW Demon

    Overall, I enjoy your videos, but number 4 is bullshit. Women and girls hover around the median I.Q. (which is mostly a product of intelligence) of 100, as opposed to men and boys who represent the extremes (two standard deviations and beyond) more frequently. When girls think that they're not exceptionally smart, it's likely because it's true. Telling girls that it's just their low self-esteem or whatever is actually falsifying their already correct beliefs — you're actually convincing people of lies. Hereditary genetics applies to I.Q. and intelligence, too.

  • hamza ksentini

    Let me take a step back first 🏀

  • Zett76

    The „I don‘t like change“ believe can be changed…
    Oh, the irony. 😆

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