Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder | Mental Health with Kati Morton Dissociation? Daydreaming?

Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder | Mental Health with Kati Morton Dissociation? Daydreaming?


Hey everyone! Today’s video is something that you keep asking for.
So I’m going to do it. Okay! Ugh. Dissociative identity disorder. what is it? (Intro Music) So like I said, today I’m going to talk about
DID, Dissociative Identity Disorder. That is a mouthful. Otherwise known as,
multiple personality disorder. So, if any of you ask me, because some of you did, to do multiple personality disorder it’s the same thing. Ta-da. So, what is it? Now, I did a video recently with Melissa (IDrankTheSeaWater) and if you haven’t checked that video out, I
would encourage you to check it out. We talk about maladaptive daydreaming. And in that video, I talk about DID as
well so it’ll give you kind of the spectrum. Because I’m going to talk to you today about the spectrum of DID. Now, DID dissociation is something that our mind does as a
coping skill when things get really difficult for it
to manage. We get overstressed. We get
traumatized. We get… whatever it may be in our brain it’s almost like a protective mechanism
where it’s like, “I can’t handle this. This is way too much. AH!” and we go into dreamland and we float above ourselves to some
extent. Some of you talk about dissociation like you’re watching yourself do things but
you don’t have any control over your body. some people even describe that when they
have panic attacks like they almost can’t help themselves. They feel
like they’re like drowning. Like they’re watching
themselves, you know, float away. And it’s something that our brain
does when it just feels honestly like completely overwhelmed. So
that’s the reason behind it. now, most of my clients who struggle with
dissociation and have DID are people who have a traumatic past. It
may have been sexual abuse. It may have been physical abuse. It may have been anything repeated of those
sorts or something that just seemed so overwhelming and horrible like a complete devastation of their city, if they
were hit by tornado, or something like that. I’ve had clients who have very traumatic pasts and that’s where
the dissociation starts. now the way they describe it is on a
spectrum. Now, those of us who don’t struggle with dissociation regularly may have the experience that I have when
I get really exhausted and stressed out and I’m driving home from work and I’m like, “La, la, la. Singing my favorite song. Who knows what it is.” and I’m like, “Wow. I got home. How did I get here?” Right? then you’re like, “Holy shit! How did I get here?” That’s “dissociation” and it’s really daydreaming almost, like we just kind of space out. We just go into autopilot, right? We have all these terms we use but that’s kind of like on this end of the
spectrum like, well, it’s very mild. It’s kind of just because
we’re tired. We have a lot going on. But now, we’re back and our life wasn’t disturbed by it. now that is like the low end to the
spectrum. The high end of the spectrum being someone
who fully participates in a whole other life. Hints why this used to be called multi- bleh. Multiple Personality Disorder. Because people would create a complete alter ego I guess, or alternative life. And I talk about this in Melissa’s video a little bit about maladaptive daydreaming. Now they call it maladaptive daydreaming, it’s really just on the farther end of the
spectrum of dissociation and DID. And people can spend hours each day in this day dream and you
will have a whole other life. Like, my name could be Lucy and I live in New York City in Soho. And I have this amazing husband (which I
already have. Hey Sean!) and I this amazing house. I have this cute dog. He’s a French Bulldog. He’s a rescue. He’s so cute. Right. We create this ideal alternate
universe. Now no wonder we want to live there, right? I’d like to have that life. hello! And so Our real life, when you have to let go of
that, when a doctor or a therapist is like, “You’re spending five hours a day daydreaming as this other person. You’re going to have to stop.” We look at
them more like, “Are you kidding me? My life right now is a little hectic if you
haven’t noticed. I’m a little stressed out. things aren’t really going my way. I don’t really want to leave this life to come back to my regular life.” and so that, there in lies the struggle. The main reason that it will go away or that the urges to spend all this time
in this other alternate universe or with this alternate persona is when we actually treat that initial
trauma. Because people with DID, it usually
starts when we’re very young. like let’s say 8 to 12. That’s usually
the range when people begin showing symptoms of this. And it obviously can differ if you’ve had a trauma when you’re much younger than that, you
might have remembered it younger. Or if the trauma happened
a little older, you might be a little bit older. but that’s kind of what we’ve noticed. Now, when we work through that trauma and we do all of that horrible hard trauma work, we processed through it, we work with our
therapist. Talk therapy they say is the best and then
after that is CBT therapy. I bet you’re seeing a pattern that those
are usually the most useful but research shows that those are the most useful. And so if we work through that trauma all of a sudden, we aren’t daydreaming
anymore. We don’t know why. We’re not dissociating. Things get stressful and we are here and
we’re fine and we manage and that’s the end of it, to be honest. so, what DID really is is a way for our brains to cope when we’re really overwhelmed. And we have to kind of go away from what’s happening because what’s happening right now is just way too much. And so we’ll go away, but once we process through all that traumatic, all those traumatic
happenings, then we’re okay to be present, to stay
present. So if you are struggling with this and you find yourself either daydreaming all day or the majority
of your day or you find yourself dissociating, because I have a video on dissociation itself so if you haven’t checked that out make
sure you check that out. If you’re struggling with either of those things, I
would encourage you to talk to your therapist, to find a
therapist. CBT or talk therapy is best. There are also
lots of groups and things if that is something that helps you to hear from someone else’s experience. But most of all we have to work through
all of the stuff thats happened to us before because that’s the real reason why this is
happening. And I promise you that those urges to
live in that alternate world will go away. So keep checking back, keep asking your questions. As always leave your comments below. If you have something that’s really helped you deal with your DID, let us know. We
can help one another. And you can find me all over the
internet! everywhere! Twitter, tumbler, Google+, make sure you add me on Google+. I am on Instagram, KatiMorton1. Hey! I’m also on Facebook. I am on Youtube. Here you are. Hello! I have a website, KatiMorton.com. I’m everywhere, so make sure you check that out. Subscribe, follow, whatever. and you can ask me your questions because I do FAQ’s during the week and you don’t wanna miss your chance your question answered. And I will see you all next week with another topic video.

Comments

(100 Comments)

  • Imene Ashe

    Can you daydream but the scenarios wouldn't be about you ? Like i used to daydream a looot like have at least two hours a day of daydreaming but not about myself, like i literally created a series with a bunch of different characters and stories and that was basically my dreamland. I've thought about how i kinda associate with one of the characters. like ,you know when you're watching a movie and then you go "THAT IS ME" so it's kinda like that , maybe my mind thought of like "reincarnating" me into one of his characters . But i'm not so sure… little help please .😅

  • It Me

    When I heard "make sure you add me on Google+" I had to check the date on when this video was made lmaooo

  • Depi Panda

    I suffer from maladaptive daydreaming and it has destroyed my life and I had it my whole life and now Im in such a bad position in my life that I think ending it . Because I can't handle it anymore.

    Maladaptive daydreaming is not fun I trully suffer from it I hate it !!!!

  • hypnometal

    For those of us who missed it, can you post a link to that video about maladaptive daydreaming?

  • Lauren J

    I feel like I’ve been maladaptive daydreaming everyday for multiple hours for the past few years but I don’t think I’ve had a specific traumatic event happen to me that would trigger this

  • Kara Deniz

    when I was younger I would run back and forth in the hallways of my house while daydreaming. I also walked outside for a long time just to think, but when it was dark I would become to distracted so thats why I did it inside more. I still love to daydream every time I jog or walk somewhere but not as intensely.

  • emmeline

    Psychologists need to STOP pathologizing everything.

  • JesiAnne Couvillion

    What about EMDR to treat DID?

  • Beach Bum

    I love your videos *

  • Relichia Lachina

    Im pretty sure i have MDD. Since i was young i would escape to this dream world where i was the complete opposite. Over the years its just grown to where its a continuing daydream that im always adding to with a whole world built around it and they are like different personalties for me. I find myself there several times for several hours a day, even when driving or at work and school. Its really bad when trying to sleep cus ill be in that world rather than sleeping.

  • Samir C. Cat

    I love you Katie Morton, but this is BULLSHIT!! Daydreaming and dissociation are two COMPLETELY different things. You can control daydreaming, shape up and come back to reality. YOU are in control. Whereas dissociation is a BRAIN thing, your body uses this coping mechanism and there's practically nothing you can do about it. 
    I dissociate a lot and daydream a few hours every day, and they couldn't be any more different. I've never been through trauma, that's not what day dreaming is about. It's because I have a shitty life and no way out, so I use it as a reality escape. You can tell you have no idea what you're talking about in this one, Katie, and that you've never experienced either. 
    Don't give out misinformation when we are so many that watch your channels. The other diagnoses you've talked about have been correct (I have knowledge), but this is just confused rambling from you. Sorry, but that's the truth.

  • Mouskawitz Love

    I dont think i daydream when something bad happens or a trigger… I know ive always daydreamed n still daydream but more out of boredom or exhaustion.

  • joonie tunes

    the worst part of MDD for me is when I do it in public and I make some seriously strange facial expressions…

  • David Solowsky

    I wanted maladaptive daydreaming not DID

  • skidwilldanceforyou

    What’s the difference between imagination and mdd? I feel like daydreaming is not a bad thing. What problems will this cause?

  • Franck Yan

    So you're saying Wesley Snipe didn't pay his taxes because he was day dreaming he'd already paid it? How about Clinton and kaplinsky, was it just a raunchy dream?

  • Ellen Rose

    I have this but I really don't know exactly my trauma would be. How could I remember or figure it out???

  • Return Of the Judai x

    I looooooved writing when I was a kid, I still have moving boxes full of marble notebooks fully written in, and I don't remember when, but at one point I started thinking "what would (one of my characters) do in this situation?" Because they were all braver and smarter and bigger than me. I was constantly grounded for little things and spent hours in my room with nothing but my bed as punishment, and eventually that became the only place I could focus and calm down (even now, I'm shut in my bathroom, with the fan on and earbuds in). I started playing pretend, acting out chapters from a story I was writing in my own head to see what they would do, in my mind it was a writing strategy, and I'd take turns being each person. It seemed harmless enough, keeping myself company as a kid, but now I'm 22, and still pretending to be these characters, still locking myself away to play pretend to calm down or distract myself. I feel absolutely batshit when I realize I've soent 4 or 5 hours doing it

  • Squidward’s Flute

    The video and title are very misleading. Maladaptive daydreaming has nothing to do with DID

  • Artemis Ameretsu

    I have a lot of trouble concentrating at work, when its quiet, when I'm not focused, even in a conversation if it's one that stresses me out bc even when I don't mean to I'm off in Lala land. I can't honestly say its a place I'd want to be but I find myself in different variants of it constantly.

    Does maladaptive daydreaming have to positive or is it possible to have negative daydreams that are just as pervasive..?

  • Liv

    This is something that actually helps me, and always has, I don't see a reason to try to change it.

  • Karen Russell

    I have substituted daydreaming with watching You Tube videos. I waste so much time, and it's total dissociation. I didn't connect it until I came across this video.

  • Raelyn H

    I’ve been doing this for years!!! Really unhealthy, but I’m glad it has a name and I’m not alone.

  • Be a lady

    I used to spend hours daydreaming of a past event i could not get over it al my college years were like setting on the chair and kept remembering every single moment and reliving those feelings what happened was a traumatized event that lead to a comlete disconection from the reall life i was walking on the streets and can,t even notice peoples or see people around me i could not process a simple school task but i am okay now

  • L. light

    Doo it! 💕😁 thank you kati

  • blessings of Seshat

    Thanks alot for making this video ….I am suffering maladaptive daydreaming disorder ….it's kinda very insidious disorder

  • Maria Bland

    The thing is: I have maladaptive daydreaming, but as far as I can recall, there wasn't any trauma in my childhood. I mean, I did begin depression when I was 12 and recently got out of it, but I don't think that's not really a traumatic "event" because it was several years of my life where I was just depressed because of a disapproving mother. But loooong before that even began, I would still have extremely vivid daydreams that I would escape to.

  • Mia Bryant

    The way she describes MDD is pretty spot on, but to put that in the same category as DID is where I don't agree. Majorly disagree

  • Propaganda Minister

    i started the video and lost myself right before she talked about daydreaming came back because the video ended. forgot what it was about. skipped back and had a nice giggle + facepalm

  • Counsellor

    Hi Katie
    You have a great channel it's so nice to see you are helping so many people.
    I am a therapist myself and may need some guidance getting my videos as far and wide as you do.
    If you get some time I would love to connect and discuss therapy, mental health and all things YouTube.
    Thanks for reading and hope to hear from you soon
    Philip

  • S K

    for me, it’s like ocd within the mind..when i don’t get a scene right, i have a desire to replay until i get it right. it takes days perfecting every moment. i can’t move on until i’m satisfied. it is tiring and i can’t help it. i day dream specific characters with backgrounds and what i want their purpose to be. i often need a perfect face for it. i daydream things that are impossible from my reality, it helps cope with my losses but at the same time realizing it’s impossible is heartbreaking. my body physically reacts to it, meaning if my character was crying, i would tear, if my character was angry, i would feel anger.it’s really too much for me.

  • Jennbun

    I dissociate. I had a TBI and went through a lot of emotional trauma prior and after now my brain injury. My dissociative episodes are usually about events in the past but with different outcomes. And my brain tries to follow the story until I catch myself and force myself out of it. I find it annoying.

  • TheFishly News

    I zone out a LOT, like i zoned while typing this more than. Once. And my eyes move then my hands or head turnsl

  • Toniaalwaysnforever

    I feel like I have mdd and I don't know how to stop and all I can think of is essential oils

  • Dusk before Dawn

    OMG that’s what I do. Now I’m scared 😦

  • heather stewart

    wow i just decided to google something i’ve experienced for almost half of my life and i think i have MDD

  • Marti Rizz

    I never realised how distressing my life at home was until I moved to another city to go to uni. Not long after "leaving the nest", all the trauma I had bottled up started coming to the surface, and this was also thanks to a special person who was there for me and believed, cared and understood my struggles. Up until that very painful moment of realisation, anger and grieving, I had been maladaptive daydreaming. I just now realised that I suddently stopped at the exact time at which I started recognising my trauma and my suffering. I didn't even know that spending several hours per day fantasizing about a different life was something abnormal, and I wasn't aware that it was a defense mechanism, I honestly thought my life was perfect (or rather, I had convinced myself of that). I remember daydreaming everytime I could, on public transport, in class, right before going to sleep… and I would also cut out time during the day dedicated to laying on the bed and just daydreaming, fully awake. I would even tell my mother, who was used to seeing me spend a lot of time in my room apparently doing nothing, "I'm thinking", or "I'm going to my room for some thinking time" (which is ridiculous now that I think about it). Now that I don't feel the compulsion to daydream anymore, I almost think of that time with nostalgia, because daydreaming was extremely pleasing and rewarding. But honestly I'm happy to be in a much healthier place now, mentally-wise. Going through the process of realising the trauma was very painful. Extremely painful. I had the worst years of my life. But these three or four years of pain and struggle have been worth it.

  • Jazz and other creations

    My family denies they abused me, and this is kind of my proof. At least to me.

  • Robert Alderman

    I used to spin clockwise, in a circle and day dream. it started with running around the couch or jumping on a trampoline while hanging on this workout ewuipment while listening to music. That was when i was in 4th grade. Then in middle school, i switched to spinning. Then after that i went to pacing back and forth while listening to music. It was an addiction for me

  • job3831

    This is why movies are so popular.

  • Luke Donlan

    Seems like some mental illness breed great philosophy and science; greater minds in history!

  • Andrea star

    thank u so much for this! I've had it quite difficult with this.

  • Tiia X

    this information isn't correct. please fix it 🙁

  • august m

    i don’t feel like this at all described did in the slightest. i’m not just “not present”, and presenting did as the same as mdd or directly linked is giving people the wrong impression about both disorders

  • Misc Box

    When I was 15 I created a alter ego that had no emotions and was overly rational since I was struggling with emotions and wanted to understand myself and I was only able to kill it at 20

  • Nida Munir

    How to do self-therapy? What to do if you can't work with a therapist?

  • Mel Xephyr

    Oh man i thought i was just imaginative as kid as an adult. Though I did realised my daydreams were excessive. Especially when i imagined being someone completely different.

  • Vaidehi Zarapkar

    Pls do one video how to come out of this disorder

  • Kate Lind

    How can one person be so uninformed and at the same time be so confident in what they're saying. DID can develop until the age 7-9 and only through having experienced repeated and/or severe trauma. It can't develop after that. A child's personality isn't fully integrated yet so all the different states of mind are separated until a certain age, where these states of mind come together. If that process is interrupted with trauma, you can end up with multiple alters that can differ in personality, age, gender, sexuality, eye-color, allergies, likes, dislikes etc. There are neurological changes in the brain when an alter fronts, which are visible on MRI scans. You actually work with people that have DID and tell them they should stop daydreaming? I think you need more help than them.

  • TomHolland's Daddy

    I do this, but it's not something that affects my daily life or social life at all. I mostly do it when I get home from school and when i am in school I still do it but it's not as intense and is always in the back of my mind but i'm still always to talk about my friends and do my work no problem. I don't think its a negative thing,it can actually be pretty cool to make up whole worlds in my head, as long as I can control it.

  • TH Sisters

    Dose anyone else thinks that music makes it worse or Evan pacing or reading

  • CEXEBLY1

    i have this and cuz i play alot of games i dont have it while i play but when i dont i do this at class or when i am on my mobile then listen some music then start to get sleepy cuz it is basicly like a dream i fall asleep everytime

  • CEXEBLY1

    i ussually daydream about me fighting why tho wait no i daydream of myself doing badass fighting with some demons and shit and the effects i do are wa to good mann when wwings come out of mz back i see dust and shit from wind created by wings and holly shit the punches are soo good they feel nooice i was doing mma i wanted to go pro but i got gylbert syndrome and i had to stop so i guess it is cuz of that i hate when i go to school or somewhere and i dont even know i am walking and shit

  • vivien huerta-guimont

    So my childhood…Reasons why I write.

  • Jordan Graham

    I struggle with MDD and I’m so attached to this alternate universe my brain created that I don’t want to fix the stress in my life cause then this world and these characters I’ve grown attached to will vanish 🙁

  • Stohe Claims

    i don’t think i have any disorders but i day dream every morning as soon as i wake up and before i get out of bed just helps a little i don’t usually in public because but i find myself wanting to

    also ik MDD is not the same as DID

  • Mekhi edwards

    I am a malaptive day dreamer and know I’m in a group at school 🙄🙄🙄

  • Lexie Tibbs

    I'd say I experience MDD mildly. I'm an introvert so I prefer doing things alone, and especially in public places when I feel my social anxiety act up, I find that I go on autopilot, and in my head I'm in a totally different scenario, talking to someone, doing an activity, etc. It's a really odd sensation once you snap out of it and come back to the present, even though you know the whole time that it isnt real

  • Heather Dee

    I think I have this? But I'm not sure?

  • Wasil Kaleem

    I dissociated multiple times while watching this clip. Had to rewind just as many times. Annoying.

  • Noémi Kalácska

    so maladaptive daydreaming is on the did spectrum? can i have multiple personalities with different World view, different mental illnesses, age, race, gender and sexuality even if i never/rarely experience dissociation like having no control over my body or memory lapses? if i got it right, this is maladaptive daydreaming. multiple personality disorder without dissociation

  • Bookworlds Wonder

    Ohhh shit I didn’t know this was a thing , When I am stressed I will spend all day in my dream land like a solid 8 hours

  • Maisie Long

    I don’t remember going through anything really traumatic but I spend hours daydreaming and the life in my head is ALWAYS on my mind. It’s really crazy that even thinking about leaving the world in my mind makes me cry and stressed out. What do I do? I’ve tried to bring it up to a therapist but she isn’t really bothered by it.

  • Flyaway21

    DID is not MaDD

  • Kristina Siskova

    MDD and DID both of it are related with Adrenal fatigue and HPA axis dysfunction. I have started to be MDD after i had nightmares like my body slept but my brain was in trance. My parents spoke to me but i did not sense them. That was like i am not here. Doctors never helped me but I did a private tests of my cells last years and finally I am recovering.

  • TeeKay Trailers

    I’ve been day dreaming since 92’

  • eribeiro

    I do suffer from this since i'm very young. I'm affraid of finding a terapist cause i think they won't understand… I don't remember suffering any trauma, although i do present many childhood trauma simptoms.
    It's becaming worse because i'm loosing control over it.

  • Anesh Dhanaji Patil.

    The way speak is impressive

  • Lily Thompson

    I'm not traumatized, I'm not to terribly stressed or tired but at night (it usually carries into day) when I'm alone I get extremely invested in a pretend world where I am my favorite comic, TV show, or movie character. Sometimes the life I put myself in is better than my normal one and other times it's way worse I write my own story and improvise ect. so like with most stories or movies my character (me) goes through angst and trauma. It takes alot of strength to remind myself that this boyfriend or girlfriend I gave myself doesn't exist or that I don't have superpowers, and nothing to tramatic has happened to me. It sounds extremely crazy outloud but I've been doing this since I can remember. (PS I often full on act out, mouth, or say the dialogue)

  • Deo Anda

    Hello. What if you can't trace the reason for your daydreaming and dissociation? I've been daydreaming since I was a kid and I move around everytime I do so. Until now I do it. I hope therapy can still help even if we can't remember the trauma.

  • Matthew Goodsell

    Could this be a case of over pathologising a fairly normal behaviour? We all daydream; to talk about such behaviour in these terms might make people think they have some kind of medical or psychological condition, which in itself might do more harm than good.

  • little devil child sea-monster

    Im 15 now, and have started maladaptive daydreaming when I was around 5. I avoid relationships, friendships and social event just to day dream, but to be honest, I would never want it to be different. My therapist told me to try and regulate my daydreaming, but I haven't even tried because I think I'd become hyper depressed aha

  • Juniz 1982

    DAYDREAMING WHILE WATCHING THIS VEDIO

  • Tyrone Greenfield

    I've done this since I was a little kid, I had three traumatic experiences between the ages of 5-7. I was diagnosed with ADHD but my mum refused to put me on drugs (Legend), im glad she didn't. As I was growing up I woulld constantly day dream through school all the time and really struggle to focus. I could do school work when I really needed to for example to get my school certificate for Literacy and numeracy. After my schooling I always day dreamed at work unless there would be serious consequences. It's weird when my flight or fight response is engaged I can think clear as all hell and very precise, It became a bit of a buzz for me but when I did things that would engage my (FOF) i would re-live past traumatic experiences or be reminded of them. I've never been to see a psychologist/psychiatrist because it would make me feel like less of a man, It's also another reason why im glad my mother didn't put me on drugs. Though I have had serious issues with alcohol "lol". My daydreams have become more realistic and achievable as I have aged and I now use them to better myself and to invision myself as a better version of myself. I've nearly thought myself to death " if you get me" but I eventually get sick of my own shit and just laugh at myself. Im 27yrs old now with a partner of 7 years and 2 children my partner thinks im crazy but loves me and I think likes how I veiw the world or finds it useful, I don't share all my thoughts because she wouldn't understand and most people don't, which is ok. Im fairly success full in life so far and will continue daydreaming as I believe it as an unusual edge to be able to play out multiple scenarios in your mind to be prepared for reality when it comes to pass….. if it does. You just have to be careful it's also detrimental to your mental health if not moderated or if misunderstood. I think its a response to traumatic experience to a very conscientious person, and the ever lasting journey to understand why some things happen. It definitely makes you stronger if you use it and not let it use you.

  • Brandon Bastiaans

    Why do you have a monarch butterfly in your introduction? Trying to say something? 😉

  • Maitri Chavan

    I've known for a bit that I daydream maladaptively, and you hear a lot about how it's sort of an escape from real life. Maladaptive daydreamers have many detailed universes and scenarios and stories that we just jump into to escape or procrastinate or pull ourselves out of a difficult situation.

    However, I don't see enough about the more negative daydreams. Many daydreams are actually negative and even violent. I've imagined myself in situations where I or people I know and care about have been hurt. I feel like we need to talk about that more.

    Also, many people may equated the daydreams to hallucinations, which is inaccurate as maladaptive daydreamers are aware of the fact that it's just a daydream, we are able to distinguish between reality and our imagination.

    Coming back to negative daydreams, you may be wondering why anyone would put themselves in a bad situation. Many times it's to know what we would do in such a situation or just to experience something we've always wondered about. Personally, I also have a depressive disorder which often results in me feeling emotionally numb, and daydreaming of something negative usually gets a stronger reaction out of me.

    Our daydreams are intensely vivid and there's virtually no limit on how or what we experience. So we often mumble during them, walk around, sing, dance, or just act out the daydream. I pace around my room a lot because if I walked around the house or outside, people would notice.

    Maladaptive daydreaming may seem like a quirk but I have lost hours or even a full day stuck in a daydream. I get triggered very easily. I'll be listening to a song and then pause it to play out my daydream, or maybe watching a movie or reading a book, or doing anything really. I'll always stop and let myself daydream which had prompted me to loose a lot of time. Because the daydreams are so vivid, we're able to spend a virtually infinite amount of time in them.

    Another thing that bothers me is that everyone I know and don't know and want to know are characters in my daydreams. For example, one of my daydreams takes place in hogwarts, but my close friends, other people I know, and even characters from other unrelated stories can show up. This bothers me because I am already non confrontational with people in my life, so if I ever have an issue I'll practice saying it to that person it in my daydream, but then I'll avoid actually telling them because I already have but not really. It's also concerning because everyone I know isn't just who they are, they're also characters, they're also figments of my imagination, which can be really weird because I've had multiple daydream conversations with friends and even my therapist, but those conversations aren't real.

    Maladaptive daydreaming can definitely be an escape, but it's maladaptive, which means it interferes with day to day life. I'm trying to be more present as of late, but I often slip into a daydream and realize "oh shit it's been 30 mins" or "wtf how is it 7pm it was 4 just two mins ago". And even though it interferes with my life, I can't imagine not daydreaming, giving it up would be like getting rid of a part of myself.

  • Tyler Johnson

    Maladaptive daydreaming is NOT dissociative identity disorder. They are very separate. Please distinguish between the two. This video is supposedly about dissociative identity disorder but it has maladaptive daydreaming in the title and that is problematic. This was very confusing to me about your video and I would appreciate you doing this in the future.

  • Elicia Garcia

    I haven’t been diagnosed with this but I know I have it. I have gone through extreme stress that was out of my control and my life got so bad and confusing I didn’t know what to do and now I day dream at least 5 hours a day imagining I’m a different person with a happy life and love and stability. Like I literally run around my neighbourhood for hours a day with my earphones in imagining I’m in a different place in my life where I’m happy. Like the movie plays in my head that I’m happily married and in love and have money and friends and family that cares. People notice my running around all the time and tell me that I must love exercise but they don’t get it’s not about exercise I’m just taking my mind away.

  • Angel_eyes65

    I was verbally abused by my mom. So I dissociate a lot. It’s my way of coping.

  • Angel_eyes65

    Every teacher in school told my Mom, I was a daydreamer. I was a bad daydreamer. But it helped me and it still helps me.

  • Victoria

    I very recently found out that this I actually a disorder. And I’m not the only one who does this. And now I’m sort of scared because I have realised the effect that is has on my life. I have been doing it as long as I can remember. It started out as being a way to get to sleep like someone reading a book and as I got older and school and life started getting harder and more stressful. It changed into being a coping mechanism to escape the reality of the world. I walk up and down my house cleaning and listening to music while being submerged in a fantasy. It has gotten worse this past year because of some bad things happening in my life. Everybody says how strong and brave I am because I don’t seem to get upset about the bad stuff happening in my life. But the reality is that I’m just distracting myself form what’s going on.

  • quanshavia Green

    Feel free to check out my book (Save me from my unbroken cycles by Quanshavia Green) I have suffered from this since the age of 7. I hope my story helps others and I can't wait until more research comes out about it

  • Payton Bernett

    Another video spreading misinformation about DID. This is not helpful to individuals who actually have DID you are spreading misinformation and are in a position of such power than people blindly believe you. I don't know where you got this information but it is FALSE.

  • bumblebees are cute

    I have MDD. I’ll create whole other worlds with complex characters and plots. If I’m listening to music a lot of the time I’ll start to daydream. If I’m playing sport on my own outside I’ll daydream. I mostly daydream in my room pacing, I also talk out load to myself (as multiple characters). Sometimes depending on the content of the daydream I’ll act it out (physically) not including daydreaming. I will also find myself daydream when I sing and dance. The thing is, I love the worlds I’ve created and I love daydreaming. I don’t find it embarrassing, everyone knows I like daydreaming and I embrace it. I feel like if I stopped daydreaming I would loose apart of myself. I don’t think it interferes with my life (I can control it, mostly) or with my school work or relationships. Although I don’t see it as a issue (for me personally) I would still like advice 😊
    The only downside to this is that (even as a teen) I feel like I’m constantly searching for a this huge fantasy adventure that I know doesn’t exist. I want to be able to explore and adventure ✨ if anyone has any places to travel, explore or present ANY (and I mean any) type of adventure please tell me. Sorry✨🦕😅

  • Dipty Anand

    Thank god , i got over this thing..

  • Julia Guo

    Thank you, Kati, for such a compassionate and comprehensive video! I would like to be a therapist just like you, and spread awareness about mental health issues. Thank you for being my inspiration! <3

  • R Leo

    i started doing it when i was really young like 8 or 10 …. idk what happend its scares me

  • THECRAZYNARWHAL34

    Ok, for some reason I felt the need to post on here and honestly I hope people see this post and respond I wanna know what other people with this disorder have to say. I definitely have this disorder, it's like you can make a movie in your mind and watch it all day, I have made multiple little universes that have grown and became more realistic since the age of 12 I also quite often picture myself in scenarios. Being famous on a talk show, traveling to a far corner of the world, seeing myself in the next 20yrs being successful, etc. But I would not consider MDD a "disorder" it's a skill if used correctly. There is no doubt in my mind that some of the most talented directors and writers in Hollywood have MDD. Where did you think George Lucas came up with the crazy idea of star wars??? Also ya kno those daydreams that involve you? The ones where you are traveling or are in a scenario you would like to be in? Get off your ass and do them! Turn your daydreams into goals and pursue them! MDD can be a skill when you learn when to stop dreaming and when to start doing

  • brianna merrill

    I’ve been daydreaming like this for years, since I was little. I think it’s rly because I feel like my friends don’t actually like me and it’s nice to imagine that I have people that do like me //:

  • قمر ١٤

    So it is not a disorder it is not on the list may be it just happen to people who have bad life situation or living in bad environment so day dreaming is a mental habit and mental habits not easy to break

  • 8D forever

    Wow. I daydream like 5 hours a day but never really thought much of it except that im practically dependent to it. Yikes

  • Jaida Blizard

    What if you can't remember your past trauma?

  • Got any grapes? waddle waddle

    DID IS different to MDD, but psychiatrists actually think that MDD can be connected to DID, depression, or OCD.

  • Lexie Beiderwell

    Ever since I lost my insurance and my therapist along with it I find my self doing this more and more and I used to do it all the time when I was younger but now it’s all I do and I’ll find myself out with ppl just waiting to be alone so I can get back to my daydream and just spend hours and hours in my own head

  • Nafeesa Hussain

    I've been doing this since I think forever, I can't seem to not do this

  • Agampreet Kalra

    I think we should create a support group online. Talking about this, helping each other help to cure with each other’s stories and trying. I think it will be very motivating it’s gets really hard when you are trying to give up —but it’s already under your skin. It’s addictive. I think it will also be liberating for many to talk this to someone who really understands.

  • Lexie Parrott

    mdd isn’t a disorder tho??

  • Tiffany Jean

    A letter to myself

    It feels good to go off to dream Land doesn't it?
    A land of Eden where the grass is green and embers of our heart begin to egnite when you are there. You know you are still HERE but you are THERE.your in the elsewhere.the place where you know we have no control over. Their are days where I easily drift to you, but their are some where it is not the right time. You're at work when I stand alone with myself. when my talking to not think about you has run out and others grow tired of me spilling whatever thoughts that are not about you. Their are days where I lose apart of myself in this world to talk to you, and you are cruel. You are a bittersweet vice that has leached onto who I believe I am and now because of your reminder I am never who I could of been.

  • Linwarai Linoodlin

    That’s not DID…

  • VB madhavi

    I m from india.🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳
    I also day dream.recently i noticed that music is the trigger for me so i boycott headphone for a month not even touch that. After this i spend time with friends when ever i walk i count my foot steps and try to see the thing like trees house's and more to avoid day dreaming.and after @ month i day dream less then 90% .i now i am in a new world( A real world) .you all can control day dreaming just take a step and go for it world is waiting for you.👍👍👍👍

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