Mental health and disability! Twitter Thursday! #KatiFAQ | Kati Morton

Mental health and disability! Twitter Thursday! #KatiFAQ | Kati Morton


Hey everybody. Happy Thursday. And when it’s Thursday that
means I’m on twitter. So if you haven’t found me on
twitter, it’s just @katimorton So tweet me there anything
that you’re doing. Any great inspirational stories. Pretty much anything that’s
going on with you. And so I have already been on
and I have three questions. As well as a journal topic. So thanks Sara for that. And they are all over the place. I tried to get a variety of questions today
that touch on a bunch of different things. So hopefully you find it helpful. And if you like it, give it a thumbs
up and let me know. Okay first question is. ‘How do you know when
your mental illnesses,’ ‘Are serious enough to think
about filing for disability?’ Now we haven’t talked about
disability before. And so I thought that was a really
cool thing to begin talking about. Now it’s not my specialty. I don’t fill out paperwork for my clients. Or work with people who are
on disability necessarily. But many of my clients are already
on disability when they come to see me. Now the, when I worked in the inpatient, I did a lot more work with this. And we would talk about getting
patients on to disability. And the main factor is that
if your mental illnesses, Are making it impossible for
you to get or keep a job. Then you should file for disability. Because that’s the thing that ends
up putting us kind of in jeopardy, right. If we’re really struggling,
lets say with depression. It’s horribly, horribly hard
to get out of bed. And we keep, or we are late to work a lot. We miss days a lot. And we lose our job. We get fired because
we’re not consistent. And we’re not showing up
when we are supposed to. Because we mentally just can’t. We just can’t deal with it. So that’s when you begin the
process of filing for disability. Because when we lose our jobs, Then we may lose our home. And we may lose, you know, the
ability to care for ourselves. And that’s what disability is there for. When we are unable to care
for ourselves financially, And we will be pretty much
out on the street. Then disability is there to help us along the
way so that we can get the support we need. You know, get the treatment that we need. And have the money to help us
keep the roof over our head, And you know, pay for
food and stuff like that. Okay. So if it’s stopping you from
keeping or getting a job. Or going to school. Or doing anything really. Then I would start looking in to it. And get the paperwork. I think you can do a lot of it online. But there are also places that you
can look up in your area, Where you can go to a government facility
and pick up paperwork and fill it out there. Okay. And then they assess from there. Sometimes they will ask you for
letters from different clinicians. Or proof of income. Or any kind of number of things. So just be prepared for that. But once you have it, It’s pretty much a check that
comes every month. And I think you have to
continue to prove it, I don’t know if it’s every year
or every six months. For any of you out there who are on
disability and know more details about it, Because I only know the
starting process of it. I don’t know what my clients have
to do in the meantime. Like how often they have to apply for or
continue to prove that they need disability. So if you have any more information,
let us know below okay. And I will look into this more. If you want more information about this. Let me know below. And I can research some more. And put out a Monday video about it. Okay. Question number two, ‘Hey Kati, I was wondering if it’s
common to binge after therapy sessions.’ ‘I have been going regularly
for over a year.’ ‘And I find myself binging as soon
as I get home almost every week.’ ‘Will this eventually stop? Should
I bring it up to my therapist?’ ‘Thanks. And I love your videos.’ It is very common. And the interesting thing about it. Well, not even the interesting, The reason that we struggle with binging. I have clients who wont even
necessarily binge after therapy. But they will, like, feel really wiped
out and they will want to self harm. Their urges will get worse. I have clients who struggle
with exercise addiction. And they will want to work out. Now the reason that it gets so
bad right after therapy. Is because we stir all of that stuff. We’re talking about things
that are really difficult. We are trying to process through the reasons
that we use that coping skill in the first place. And so for a while, We can feel the urge to use that coping
skill immediately following therapy. Now I would definitely bring it
up with your therapist. And there may be something
that you can do together. Like many of clients who
struggle with stuff like this, We’ll stop session a little bit earlier. And we will use the last,
lets say ten minutes, To kind of debrief. Calm down. Talk about what tools we are
going to use this week. And kind of lighten up the mood. So that when they leave,
they feel in a better place, Than if we you know talked about all
of the nitty gritty stuff until it’s like, ‘Okay sorry, our time is up.’ And that can feel really abrupt
and it can make us, you know, All of the things that we are already stirring
in our head haven’t been calmed down. And so we’re going to revert back to that
old coping skill that we have used before to help us. Does that make sense? I hope that helps. And makes sense, is clear. Because it’s been a coping skill that
we have used for a long time. And so when we stir everything up,
that’s what we are going to go back to. So I would talk to your therapist. I would try to make your sessions
end on a different note. Where you feel like you processed,
you have time to calm down. You have tools you are going to use. And then time is up. Okay. Question number three, ‘Does mental illness take away
personal accountability?’ ‘It seems that some people use their illness
as an excuse for their personality flaws.’ ‘And it seems nowadays there is a
diagnosis for ever abnormal trait.’ ‘I also feel like this is a problem with
trying to break the stigma of mental illness.’ ‘How can we live with our illnesses and
stay accountable for our lives,’ ‘And take responsibility for our actions?’ Now I want to talk about this. And I thought this was a
wonderful question. Because some people do do this. And if you are one of these people, Then it’s something that you should
probably work on with your therapist. But people will use mental
illness as a crutch, To explain away things that may
otherwise be in their control. We can have mental illness. We can struggle with
different mental disorders. But we are still accountable,
for our own recovery. For getting our own support. For reaching out. For working on ourselves. There are going to be things
that are really hard for us. And you can’t tell a bipolar
person, you know, ‘You need to control your mania.’ Because that’s not something like
that we can physically do. It’s something I can work on. I could go to my psychiatrist. And make sure I am on my medication. I can make sure I am seeing my therapist. And I am working on my relaxation tips. And I am also working, you know. There are things that we can do to
better help us in the moment. But if we aren’t doing
anything to help ourselves. We’re not reaching out. People are trying to help us, And we are like,
‘No no no no no.’ Then in my mind, and my opinion. We lose the ability to say that things
are shitty because of our mental illness. What’s really shitty is because
we have a mental illness, And we are not getting the
help that’s offered to us. We’re not taking advantage of
the help that’s offered. And we’re not getting out
there and working on it. And that’s where the
accountability still lies. Because we all have our struggles. We all have different things
we are working on. But that’s why we have
this wonderful community. So that you can reach out. That’s why you’re watching this video. If you’re watching this video. Then you’re being accountable. You’re reaching out. You’re seeking help. You’re getting better information. You’re communicating with other
people about issues and struggles. Because we all have struggles. And it makes things a lot harder. And there are going to be some
things that we just can’t change. So no one’s perfect. But the accountability lies in getting
the support that we can, And that’s available to us. And taking advantage of that. So that we can better ourselves. Is that clear? So I think that people do
diagnose a lot of things. And they throw those out like, ‘That’s
the reason that I struggle with this’. But it really could be the reason. And if we don’t know
them well enough, Then it shouldn’t be on
us to pass judgement. If we know them well enough, and
we know they are getting help. Then that’s just something that
they are struggling with. And we have to learn to accept that. Everyone’s at different stages
in recovery, and in life. And the sooner we learn to accept that. The more peaceful and
happy we’ll feel in general. Am I right? Okay, I hope that makes sense. It’s kind of a personal opinion /
philosophical thought about it. But if you have a different opinion,
you’re always open to share it below. And let us know what you think about it. Now journal topic, thanks Sara. It says, ‘Each day is a new life.’ I’m going to say that again. ‘Each day, is a new life.’ ‘Cease it. Live it.’ And it’s by David Guy Powers. It said, ‘For me this means don’t give up
today, there is always tomorrow to succeed.’ ‘Live your life to the fullest doing
what you are passionate about.’ ‘An example, I’m passionate about
drawing. So I draw what I see in my mind.’ ‘I’m also working towards becoming
an elementary school teacher.’ And I thought that was such a great quote. ‘Each DAY is a new LIFE.’ How do you want to live your life today? It’s very powerful. And it also makes it more achievable. Because we’re putting it
in one day at a time. And it can help us stay focused on
what we are working on now. Now where we hope we get to. So, yeah. I hope you like that. I love you all. I will see you tomorrow. Because it’s finally Friday. And I will be on facebook, so ask your
questions there using the #KatiFAQ Bye! Subtitles by the Amara.org community

Comments

(31 Comments)

  • Carly but really BATMAN

    Thank you so much for this video (and all of your videos)!
     P.S. I think it'd rock if you did a Monday vid on mental health and disability. 

  • LilTeaBag

    Thnx Kati!
    Im from Canada, but id love to hear how disability works more in detail even if its not necessarily the same than in the US.
    Thnx!!

  • kineticpsi

    Thank you. I would like to see more from you on disability as well. I would also like to ask why you don't do any of the paperwork for your patients – is it just too cumbersome? I can imagine it gets tedious quickly but if it helps your patients… This isn't an attack, I'm just curious as to the reasons. You're welcome to do whatever you want in YOUR practice.

  • Elliepixie12

    #katifaq I have a question about all the bad things that happened to me in my childhood. People say I should just forget and move on but I've missing memories about it and although I am not as hung up about it I feel the need to work with my feelings and not dismiss them which is what I am being told to do. I don't know if ill remember my subconscious knows and I don't understand why people such as my mum think that to un acknowledge this happened almost is wrong! It's like having a jigsaw puzzle and pieces float around you put you know these pieces are preventing you from moving on! I smile and I am a completely different person but I am not whole?

  • Joseph S

    1) When I got on disability I applied for both disability and vocational rehab at the same time and basically told them to either help me get and (more importantly…) keep a job or put me on disability and let them make the call. I spelled out what was going on in my head at the time and let both of them know that I applied for both… The disability decision came first… and was declined. Then came the voc rehab decision… and was also declined. Yes, too sick for voc rehab, not sick enough for disability. Really everyone gets declined on the first go around for disability. I had to reapply for disability because the time voc rehab took to get back to me exceeded the time I had to…the right word is escaping me atm… get the paperwork in to them for the next step… Anywho… I had to start the process over from the start but they ended up paying back from when I first applied which ended up being a rather sizable check and a pleasant surprise. Ended up paying off my student loan with it. If I were to do it over again, I would have applied for a disability related forgiveness of the loan (which isn't an automatic guarantee if you're on disability…) and used the money to actually live on. Buy a mobile home or something… I was expecting to be able to go back to school though. I had some success with it in my past and was expecting to be able to do it but ended up being too unstable for it… Eh, it is what it is…

    The medical review interval isn't set in stone. It depends on how long they believe it might take for you to improve. When I was first put on disability they told me 2 years. It ended up being 4-5 years, which is where I'm at now. They sent the "short form" which is, well, short. It asked for 2 years of medical history and I explained in all its gory detail why I hadn't been in for about a year and a half. (None of which was my fault of course.) They sent another form a few months later asking for only 1 year of medical history, which, of course, I didn't have anything to tell them so I gave them the double salute instead. Pretty sure they're trying to coerce me into going back in. (Which I really need to do…) The checks have ceased until I get that form in. I have 1 year from the date they told me the checks were going to cease to get it in or I'll have to restart the disability process from scratch. Medicare didn't actually stop at the same time so I'm actually still insured. The premium is on me though… This situation is actually the reason I was going to volunteer and have something to put on an application…. (Which didn't go so well actually… Ended up chewing out the Meetup's organizer that I was going to volunteer with without even meeting the guy… He needed to be chewed out but still…) So that's the medical review and what happens when you don't cooperate with it… Only other thing to add is… I'm not 100% sure this is actually happening but I think they've contacted the FBI on me and they're now trying to entrap me. My issues are such that it isn't unreasonable for them to do that… I just don't know if they actually are or it's all in my head and I'm going psychotic. Well that's it. Probably more information than you wanted to know.

    3) Which brings us to 3. Most of my talks with therapists regarding taking responsibility are on the lines of not playing the victim and taking responsibility for where I am in life. As indicated earlier, I obviously have issues with blaming others for where I'm at. Regarding blaming the illness, I'm a firm believer that taking responsibility doesn't mean beating oneself up over what's done. It means making damned sure what's happened doesn't happen again. As far as others… I don't think anyone other than that person and their doctors/therapists are in a place to make that determination. It really isn't any of my business.

    This is a freaking essay…

  • Pretty Lou

    I used to binge after sessions!! I'm not the only one 🙂

  • Paula Puddephatt

    I have only just started to watch this video and have paused it, but as soon as you started talking about disability, I thought that I would mention the situation here in the UK, with DLA (which I believe is changing over to a new benefit, with a different name).  If you are refused for benefits, or taken off benefits when you are already on them, it is important to appeal, if you think that the decision was wrong.  There is a very good chance of keeping your benefits if you do appeal, but they somehow work on the theory that many people will just accept the decision.  If you cannot make it to the appeal hearing dates, which they usually expect you to attend in person, something can often be done about this too.  They will tell you that you cannot win if you appeal in writing, which is an option.  However, I did get them to reinstate my own DLA to the correct and original level, simply through corresponding in writing.  I hope that this helps.  I know that others out there are also from the UK, and it is such a different system here.  It is often a nightmare, to be honest.  But there is hope. 

  • Brian Mills

    For mental illness, getting approved will depend upon your diagnosis and your history. If you've just been recently diagnosed with depression and have only been in therapy for a few months, you will most likely not get approved. However, if you have been in-patient recently or several times in the past several years and have a long history of therapy it shouldn't be that difficult based on your diagnosis. Please don't let the process scare you, most of it is just filling out paperwork and getting documentation from your medical providers/treatment teams. Not everyone gets denied on the first claim either. At some point after you submit all of your documentation they will probably have you go do a short interview with a psychologist who does assessments. From there you should hear something back within a month. Depending on their opinion of the severity of your disability, they will determine when you come up for review again. For most people it will be in 2 to 3 years. Note: disability does NOT factor in cost of care when it comes to your disability. If you are unable to afford to stay active in therapy, seeing your psychiatrist, purchasing your medication, etc. this will hurt your claim as it is basically looked at as you aren't doing your part. If you find yourself without income to stay in treatment, I would urge you to look at any and all programs in your area and take advantage of them. If you have loved ones with the ability to help you out, you will get back pay until the date they considered you disabled so if you do have to borrow from loved ones you will get the ability to pay them back. Source: My wife is a CRC and trained benefits counselor.

  • anna Philips

    #katifaq I have a friend who is going through a really tough time at the moment and its suspected that she has what used to be known as BPD. I have had substantial mental health problems in the past (They used to think I had BPD now they have changed to dissociative disorder) I am stable now with children and loving husband and I just want to help but I struggle not necessary to say no but not to help someone that's going through a tough time,especially someone I care about or whos been in a situation ive been in. How do I protect myself and my mental health but still help them through a tough time? I am in therapy by the way.

  • Julie Rager

    As far as social security, it is EXTREMELY difficult to get approved for disability AT ALL, much less for "only" mental illnesses. Almost everyone gets denied the first few times, so like someone else said, get a lawyer to help you. The process takes YEARS.

  • Jess S

    I'm really disappointed that you think people should be held accountable if they don't seek help. Lacking motivation is a huge disadvantage of depression: if I could find the willpower to get help and if I thought I was worth the effort then of course I would do it. Some days I can, some days I can't. I don't believe that to be a reflection on me: just the fact I get out of bed is a huge achievement.

  • KATIE M

    what's the difference between feeling good and being in maina cause i've been in a good mood for like a month and my therpist and my doc say i'm in maina

  • rockbythetree

    I almost always exercise after I leave my therapy sessions. I process through the stuff we talked about in session while I'm exercising. It took some work with my therapist, but now I will eat after my post-therapy work outs.

  • juah-teah davies

    I got a lawyer one on TV B&B it took me four years and don't say what u got but they want to how it affects u day to day do u wash clean shop ect do someone help you if u have med side affects how does that effect you day to day.. hope this help someone enjoy the week end

  • DaniiiAkasha

    I have tourettes that is well controlled with medication. But the medication makes my body mimic Parkinson's. One of my biggest fears is not being able to work. I think if I had to apply for disability, I might be suicidal.

  • Tom Palmer

    In Narcotics Anonymous they say "you aren't responsible for the disease, but you are responsible for the cure."

  • Manda Pollett

    Hi Kati! Fabulous video, really liked this one. 🙂
    #katifaq potential journal topic (but isn't really a journal topic?) my therapist, the other week, gave me some relaxation tips when I'm having a panic attack or just getting overly anxious. The best one (for me) was spelling words backwards, because it requires a lot of concentration and distracts me from going into that negativity spiral! Some others were counting backwards and naming 5 things that you can see, touch, hear or smell. Hope this helps people with anxiety (etc) disorders! 🙂

  • vicki Quiroz

    very good information

  • ugmjfarmer

    Katy, I just had a therapist quit the practice I was seeing her at. she was unable to take me as a client because of a contract with the practice. I had just started to make groud with the new counselor, but being abandoned has caused my suicidal feelings to skyrocket and going to see the replacement counselor has not helped since now I am also distraught just walking in the office. what should I do, I've been told this is malpractice. I just want to die some days because I know I'm just a dollar sign to this over bloated office.

  • Lovely. One

    i need help plz i black out when i get angry and hurt people..wats wrong with me

  • Deez Nuts

    i always end up doing great for 2 months until i start feeling like eceryone is talking shit about me behind my back and i fell like just shooting everyone but instead i just end up cussing someone out randomly even though i damn tried not too and i get fired.

  • Mr. Teddy

    Im 29 yrs old, Homeless, Learning Disability, IEP, also PTSD, Depression, Bipolar, also never been able to live on my own successfully always get evicted or put out also put of school alot, also fired or written up on all my jobs for behavioral issues and had over 20 different jobs, ive been hospitalized on the physic ward no one is helping me only to keep me homeless shelters, I hate being around people for to long even family friends and even my daughter I don’t like it they upset very easily, I don’t know how to emotional about people please help me

  • Heather Combs

    You know you have to apply when it's serious enough when you cannot work when you can no longer work then apply

  • Heather Combs

    I am on disability I have been for a few years now. If anyone has any questions just ask me I might now! And yes Kati once you are approved for disability you have to have a review to see if you qualify. It varys for each person. Some people's reviews are 1 year if they think improvement is going to happen, 3 years if they think improvement is possible or 7 years if they think improvement is not likely. Mine is every 3 years.

  • Rebecca Craft

    I applied one month after I lost my job. I am not allowed to receive payments until 6 months I was declared disabled. I was very blessed. I was approve 2 months in advance. A lot of people spend years applying
    My understanding is the renewal is every few years. I was quoted 3-5. Others are 5-7. I think it depends on what your doctors said and the office determines.

  • Criseyde Graham

    There are some groups that can help people with mental illnesses find jobs

  • Mystery Buyer

    I have massive anxiety at work with the public. I have to see the doctor this morning and have massive anxiety over that too. It's crazy.

  • Smart Recycler

    are you on disability?

  • Chelsea E

    Do you have to go in front of a judge to get approved my anxiety is so bad I can’t do that.

  • Smart Recycler

    What about people who are on ssi/ssdi to help with environmental issues?

  • TheMisslili8

    I love watching you it's part of my healing. There's so much engagement and emotions in your expressions

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