Postpartum Depression – Mental Health Help with Kati Morton | Kati Morton

Postpartum Depression – Mental Health Help with Kati Morton | Kati Morton


Hey everybody. Today I want to talk with you
about Postpartum Depression. How do we know if we have it? And how do we deal with it? So like I said, Today I want to talk with you
about Postpartum Depression. Now what is Postpartum Depression? This is when we experience
a depressive episode, Or major depressive disorder, After having a baby. Now, first I want to let you all know, That there are over three million
reported cases in the US alone. For Postpartum Depression. In the US alone. So you are not the only
one going through this. Having Postpartum Depression, Doesn’t mean that you are a bad mother. It doesn’t mean that you
are flawed in some way. It doesn’t make you a bad person. It’s honestly one of the
most natural experiences, That can affect our mental health. Now firstly, There is something that can occur, And I don’t know the percentage. Because it varied a lot depending
on what article I was reading, Or what thing I was looking up. But most women, We will just say most because it’s
over, usually around 50% or more. Experience the ‘baby blues’. Now how are the baby blues different
from Postpartum Depression? Well, the baby blues are
usually short lived. They happen right after
having the baby. And within a couple of weeks, Like two weeks or so, They go away. So they’re transient. And so it will be like we
kind of have a downer, And then we come out of it. And we’re okay. But if this depression, Like this depressive episode, Or this depression feeling, Lasts for more than two weeks. That’s when we would say that
it’s Postpartum Depression. That it’s something that you
should seek help with. Now I wrote down some differences
between Postpartum Depression, And just to give you an idea
of how it may feel. So that you know,
if you’ve just had a baby, And you’re experiencing this, You’ll know if this is something
that you’re struggling with. Now, most people report fatigue. Also severe mood swings. And a lot of these are characterized as
having, you know, severe fatigue. Where it’s hard to get up. It’s hard to shower. It’s hard to take care of your baby. You’ll have difficulty bonding
with your baby. Withdrawal from your family and friends. And even thoughts of even harming
yourself or your new baby. And there is a caveat
off the side of this. And something I want you
all to be aware of. That there is something also
called Postpartum Psychosis. So if you find yourself imagining, like
seeing things that you never saw before, Hearing things you never heard before, Please please please see your doctor. Take yourself to the hospital immediately. That’s a very serious condition. And something that can be
treated and taken care of. But to go back to Postpartum Depression, The most common symptoms are
the ones that I just described. And obviously if you are worried that you
may harm yourself or harm your baby, It’s time to seek help. There is no time to wait. But if it’s something like
fatigue and mood swings, Like I said, after two weeks, Is when they say that you
should be seeking help. They also say if it’s getting worse, Or if it’s making it difficult for
you to care for your child, That you should also seek help. Now the causes of Postpartum Depression, Are the things that we kind of hear about. It’s like a ‘drop in hormones’. Or it’s a ‘hormone change’
when you have the baby. And that’s what causes it. And that essentially is what it is. Now I wrote down, There are a ton of causes. So you can see why this is so so common. Now there’s the dramatic drop in hormones, Estrogen and Progesterone. Those go down right after we have a baby. And we know how hormones, I’ve talked about in many other videos
with depression and things like that, Our hormones can really affect our mood. That’s why some women really struggle
with different birth controls. Because that affects our hormones. And that can make us feel really bad. Like my PMDD video. Also there are changes
in our blood volume. Our blood pressure. And this is what leads to those
extreme feelings of fatigue. Like it’s so hard to get out of bed. It’s so hard to do anything. You can’t even imagine
taking care of a child. And that’s not even to mention the fact that
part of having a new baby is being tired, We’re getting up in the
middle of the night. And we’re feeding all of the time. And it can just be exhausting as a whole. But this is an extreme fatigue. Where doing anything, regular even, Like if you had, lets say your
spouse is taking care of the baby, You can’t even take care of yourself. Also there is emotional factors. Having a baby can bring
up a lot of feelings. Even being pregnant. You know, where there’s all
of that excitement. But there’s also that anxiety. You know, what kind of a
mother am I going to be? What kind of a parent do I plan to be? How am I going to do things differently? All of that. And so all of those changes. And it can just be really overwhelming. We’re feeling a lot. Also they talk about lifestyle issues. Finanaces. Having a child can make a financial
situation that may be kind of bad, worse. And that puts a lot of pressure on both
parents to, you know, pull their weight. And if you just had the baby, You’re at home. Also getting support from your partner. Making sure that you’re sharing
in the care-taking of the child. And all of the work
that’s involved in that. And also, if you have another child, It can be hard for you to manage both. And trying to get your toddler to sit
still while you do things with the baby. And while you bathe the baby. You know, it’s a lot more to manage. And it can be really overwhelming. Now, so what do we do? What do we do if we think that this is
something that we’re struggling with? How do we even pull ourselves out of it? I know many people who struggle with this, Feel like they’re a horrible person. ‘I’m a horrible mother. I can’t even believe
I had a child. This is so terrible.’ This is not as bad as it feels. I know depression as a whole can just feel
like this huge dark cloud, That just is suffocating. It feels like we can’t get out. And there is nothing we can do. And every day just seems
longer and harder. But there is a light at
the end of the tunnel. I promise. If we get treatment quickly
for Postpartum Depression, It will not last. Honest. And the things that are recommended, Obviously is counselling. Hidey-ho. Someone like me. You can come talk. You can process through all
those things you’re feeling. All of the experiences that
you’re having with your child. Maybe feelings of overwhelm,
or financial issues. You can have someone
to talk about with it. And you can process through any of
those feelings that you’re having. Many people who had
depression in their past, May be more susceptible
to Postpartum Depression. Therefore hopefully you have a therapist or
psychiatrist that you have already been seeing. But if you haven’t, now is
the time to reach out. And start talking about it. Another thing that they obviously
recommend are anti-depressants. Now, I know many of
you out there are like, ‘Kati, I wont take drugs.’ And if you are breastfeeding, I would encourage all of you to, or if
you are even trying to get pregnant. If we are at the beginning and this
hasn’t even happened yet, If you are seeing a psychiatrist
and they tell you, you know, I think we’re going to put you on this. Always ask how can this affect my baby. Is this something that I need
to be concerned with? Do I need to switch to formula? You know, ask what class it’s in. Because there’s a ‘pregnancy class’. And most are class c. Which means that it can be
transferred to the baby. So just something to be aware of. And something to ask. Now, the last thing that’s recommended, And I got this treatment recommendations,>From the Mayo Clinic’s research
article on Postpartum Depression. And the last thing they
recommend is hormone therapy. Now this is because, like I said, Estrogen and Progesterone are going down. And we have a lot of different things that
are going on in our body hormonally. And if we are given the right hormones, We can come back out of it. And be okay. And so those are all things that I would
encourage all of you to reach out, to ask for. And like I said, Those support groups, There are over three million
cases in the US alone, Each year. Those groups are available. I know, almost every hospital in
LA that I have worked with, Yes, they all have groups for this. And talk to your doctor. Your OBGYN. Your lactation consultant. Anybody in that area will know
of one in your area. Usually they are even free. It’s something that the hospitals put on. So reach out. Get the support. Know that you are not alone. And this is something that
you can overcome. The world is not coming to an end. You are not a horrible mother. You are just struggling with a
severe drop in hormones. And an extreme change in your lifestyle. But together, we will get through it. And as always, Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel. I put out videos and you
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Comments

(41 Comments)

  • World Of LooLoo

    Hi Kati,
    I have two questions/requests and I am so sorry if this is long!
    I suffer from Major Depression, anxiety, ritualistic OCD, PTSD, agoraphobia and am in my second year of recovering from my eating disorder and it's going really well.

    The first is more of a question,
    I just want to say I am of legal age. When I drink alcohol it makes me feel calmer, much more relaxed and it actually makes me feel happy. All normal things.
    What is not normal is the fact that I am scared to death of drinking as feeling calm, relaxed, happy and such makes me feel like I have no control over what I'm feeling, I'm not scared, stressed and tense and I don't feel the need to follow my normal rituals which should be good but I hate feeling like I am not 110% in control of my thoughts, actions and emotions.
    I was just wondering if any of this you have come across before and could maybe help me figure out why I'm scared of feeling anything other then my 24/7 stress-fear-worry.

    The second part was, I was wondering if you could talk about agoraphobia? It is mentioned in some of your anxiety videos (specifically social anxietys)
    My agoraphobia developed after I was assaulted in 2011 and it is only getting worse. I can not afford a therapist/psychologist and the free health systems available to me have actually made things worse. I no longer know what to do and my family is getting frustrated as to why I can't just do 'normal things' by myself.

    If you managed to read this thank you.
    (Also thank you for everything you do on YouTube, your videos have helped me so much in many different areas of my life)

  • Nuha Chowdhury

    Hi kati, I'm thinking about seeing a school counselor but I was wondering, if I tell her I'm being emotionally abused by my mum, will she be compelled to report it? Thanks x

  • lou-who

    Another great video.

  • Emma Cupcake

    Great video thanks kati

  • some girl

    I've always been slightly confused by this topic. Thanks Kati!

  • juliakoury

    You are the cutest person ever! I love you

  • Kernschrott .Production

    Great video thx!

  • Bashley

    Hey Kati, I was wondering if certain things can make you cry and feel like you have depression again? I was in a dark hole around fall and winter then I started getting out of it. I had extreme depression and constantly thought about suicide. Lately, it's been bare but still there, and I don't cry as much. But, when there's a certain song I hear, word, or smell I instantly feel like crying and killing myself. It felt like I was in that hole again. What is this? Is this another mental disorder? What can I do to get rid of it? Thanks Kati 💓

  • A Sparkling Home

    Thank you so much for sharing this! I struggled horribly with this after my first born and never sought out help because I was so embarrassed, ashamed, and uninformed. Now, I'm just a few weeks away from delivering my second child and feeling nervous about feeling that down again.

  • Stella Foster

    Hi Kati and Kati community:

    I saw this almost identical question posted by someone else in the comments section of one of Kati's recent videos, however I can not find it again and this is something I am really struggling with. Just wanted to make a point that I am not stealing someone's question:

    I have been underemployed due to mental health issues and am more recently applying for full time jobs. (Have only worked part time before and with some gaps) How do I explain these gaps in work to potential employers when asked about it? I feel if I were to mention anything about mental health, I will seem unstable and it will decrease my chance of getting hired.

  • ohheytherelauren

    Hi Kati,
    This is off topic of the video but I have a question. My parents were divorced when I was 2 and my dad isn't really a father figure and I'm not close with him. My mom hasn't dated anyone since the divorce and I'm now 19 years old. I've never had a relationship with a guy or even a friendship. I'm ok now, with no really big issues in my life, but I'm worried about my ability to be in a serious relationship. What can I do to work on this and my ability to be emotionally vulnerable with a guy? Thanks

  • mithiji

    Hi Kati.. sorry it my first time and everything i wrote a question ur recent video on bullying .. if ur free would you be able to help me .. thanks 🙂

  • fidget1984

    #katiFAQ
    Hi kati… I think your videos and dedication are fantastic. You remind me so much of that girl in the starfish story…… 'It makes a difference to this one'…. Google it!!

    My question is a pretty profound one. I am struggling. I have been struggling for a long long time now. And I seem to keep relapsing. With a myriad of things. Self harm, eating disorder(s), etc etc.
    So I'd just like to know….. Do you ever think it's ok to give up? Have u had patients who have ended their lives and in your heart you felt: God they really did all they could do to be well, and maybe they just weren't designed to cope with their pain, in this life.

    Is it ever okay to just stop?

    Thank you for all the hope you have afforded the many of us floundering sometimes. You couldn't imagine the comfort it has provided…

  • Morgan Stacy

    Kati…. I miiiiiissssssss your other videos during the week.. ❤️💔

  • Barb Hughes Chapman

    I wish this info would have been around when I had my last child. I experienced ALL of this. Every single thing you mentioned. I went through it alone. Thank you for giving this info to young moms. You'll never know what a gift this will be for them that I never got. You're the greatest Katie. We love you

  • RagingRabbits

    I've been in bed with depression since August I took a bipolar quiz recently and scored a 57 when a score of 51 is severe and I think I'm on the upswing today cause I was able to get up and clean my room and work out also noticed that colors are more vivid when I start to feel good. I'm 23 don't have a job and how do I get help? I have no money and neither do my parents. And I feel bad for asking them anyway

  • RagingRabbits

    Thx for vids they've helped me understand what has been going on with me over the last few years I subscribed:D

  • Holli Hebert

    #KatiFAQ Hi Ms. Kati
    (I am aware you don't like prefixes, but I feel so uncomfortable not putting one. I'm sorry.)
    How long is an illness stated when going to doctor's visits? I have been diagnosed with depression with psychosis, but I'm not taking any medicines for it. Will I always have to state that I have depression with psychosis every time I go to a new doctor, or is there a time limitation when it comes to mentioning it? I hope it makes sense. Thank you for your videos and your time.

  • Rosy Pigott

    #katifaq my ed makes my reflection in the mirror constantly change. I feel like I don't even know what I look like! What can I do? Xxx

  • Samantha De La-Rocque

    #katiFAQ  Hey Kati, I was wondering what your opinion was on people using social media as an emotional outlet? And if you think its something that should be brought up in therapy? Thanks! x

  • Lydia Genz

    Hi, Kati :•)
    So I struggle a lot with my eating (I haven't been diagnosed with an eating disorder though) and weight/body image and lately my friends/family have been saying things that are super triggering to me… Like a week ago my friend was at my house and said, "If I lived here, I'd probably be fat," and that was just not something I needed to hear.. (Lil background info, my parents/brother eat what seems to be way more than they should and push me to do so – I don't) and today my other friend said, "PE was so good today!!! We got to stretch and run!" And I don't know why but part of me felt like… Just bad. I felt guilty I think… Kind of like I should be doing more to lose more and more weight even though I really don't need to – but that's weird. I don't know, I can't explain.

    Anyway, my question is what should I do? These comments are making me want to avoid them and they have no idea what I struggle with. I'm not sure if I should tell them/how I would even do that? I watched your video about "How to talk to parents/friends about eating disorders" but I still don't really know/understand what to do/if I should say something/how to bring it up..

    That was long I'm sorry 😛 Your videos are so helpful, thank you so much for making them every week!

  • Kitty Lew

    I've always wondered, like.. What made you want to work with people who have mental illness, why do You care so much about it? x

  • Pantelina

    #katifaq hey Kati, what would you suggest to someone whos enrolled to university but due to her own issues, cant deal with it?

  • perpetuallyhumanable

    #katiFAQ my psychotherapist (with 30 years+ experience)! Says I'm too 'complex' for therapy. It has left me feeling completely hopeless. i just want to give up. What else can I do?

  • Franki Kootcher

    #katifaq what are your thoughts about online relationships? I have been in a few that didn't end well, but my boyfriend now I met online and it seems to be going really well so far. 🙂

  • Noah Markis-Morrison

    When my sister had her baby about a year ago my brother in law actually showed a lot of symptoms of post partum depression. He was fatigued, had horrible mood swings and had a lot of trouble bonding with their baby. Obviously this wasnt due to hormones or anything since he wasnt actually pregnant, but I think it's quite interesting that sometimes the fathers can exhibit these symptoms

  • Carlie Bagley

    Hey Kati! Love your videos. Thank you for doing what you do! I have major depressive disorder and have struggled with PMDD and worth different birth controls- so I have been warned I will be at risk for postpartum depression when/if I have a baby. It makes me anxious about the future and I sometimes wonder if I should even have a baby!

  • Skye Connolly

    can you do a video on body dysmorphia 😢

  • Nisa Holmedal

    Thanks for this video. Helped me a lot. 😃😃😃

  • Kesikan Jayaraj

    Hey Kati, thanks for the video. Could you pls post some of the questions or how'd you start interviewing a mother with post party meperidine/psychosis?

  • joe lee

    my girlfreind is suffering severe postnatal depression.. its now nine months down the line and although she has a team and so many people to speak to she wont.. obv all i can do is stick buy here but everyday is a downer and she pushes everyone away… id like to be able to help her myself as she wont let anyone else in.. please if u can be of any help to me email me on [email protected] thanks

  • Khubaib Malik

    hey kati
    my friend after child birth got in some kind of depression…. symptoms are like she don't wanna eat food… she always think that she will vomit if she will have food..
    can u suggest some solutions to her

  • JamesMom Blue

    Maybe you can make a video about breastfeeding and depression.
    Most psychiatrists are terrified to give anything to a nursing mom, and most are unaware that there are Lactation categories (check out infant risks website!).

  • Dee Wilkinson

    I really appreciate your videos. I find them so helpful and educational. I personally have been dealing with postpartum depression for awhile now and finally seeking help. Thank you for these videos, they give me a lot of hope.

  • Gott sonstnichts

    you are a beautiful woman

  • klint shranko

    As a husband and father of two you kids, great video. Thank you

  • ajjackson731

    Getting help for my post partum depression made me realized I’ve been depressed for a lot longer than I thought. If I would have been treated for post partum sooner my post partum experience would have been so much better! Anti depressants saved me so much, it made me feel so much better in so glad I got help!

  • Aiden Sebastian

    I have battled with depression ever since my divorce three years ago. an actual low point when I received this depression treatment method “fetching kafon press” (Google it) and my self-confidence was smashed. Within weeks of reading through your book and putting your advice into practice, my depression had completely removed and my confidence started to come back..

  • A H

    Diet also plays a role.

  • smoralaura

    Hi Katie do you have info about depression and anxiety during pregnancy (antenatal depression?) could you make a video about that please?

  • Lucky ravi

    I'm currently going through severe anxiety

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