What Should YOU Expect From Therapy? | Kati Morton

What Should YOU Expect From Therapy? | Kati Morton


– Hey, everybody, happy Thursday. Are you new to my channel? Make sure you’re subscribed
and have those notifications turned on because I put
out videos on Mondays and on Thursdays and I
don’t want you to miss out. But let’s jump in to today’s question ’cause it’s a good one. And the question is, Kati,
what do we need to expect from therapy, like, should we
be receiving therapy homework? Or how do we trust in the
therapeutic process more? I thought this was a great question because we talk about therapy a lot and how it’s important to get into it, but I don’t think I’ve
actually talked about what you can expect,
so let’s talk about it. Therapy, counseling, psychotherapy, whatever you wanna call it, it can help to see a mental health
professional for support sometimes. Know that we can look
into seeing a therapist in our area for many reasons. Maybe we wanna sleep better or perhaps we’re dealing with infidelity or trying to feel less anxious. While we can reach out to
see someone at any time, and don’t have to be in a crisis to do so, it is important that we know what we want to get out of it. I say that because many people
assume that the therapist will just guide you and that
you don’t have to really know what you wanna get out of
it, but that’s not true. In a way, you’re the
boss of your own therapy. You get to decide what your goals are, what you want to improve,
and how you wanna get there. A therapist’s job is really
just to assess how you’re doing, ask the right questions, and
move you towards your goals by offering tips, techniques,
and tools that can help. So, my first tip is, prior
to going in to therapy, consider what it is you
wanna get out of it. Or at least, what it is you don’t like about your current situation. And my second word of advice or thought about this as a whole is just to remember that
therapy won’t fix everything right away, nor can a therapist
fix any of your problems. I know many of you know this, but it’s just something
that needs to be said. Actually working in
therapy is really hard. Yes, it can be exhausting and
yes, we may want to give up, but it’s not up to our
therapist to work harder than we are in the therapy process. In fact, if your therapist
is doing more work in therapy than you are, it’s actually a bad sign. And that means that the
therapeutic relationship may need looking into. ‘Cause this can be caused by
a lack of healthy boundaries in therapy or not seeing
the right therapist or seeing someone that we like but who just doesn’t practice the right type of therapy that we need and so if they’re working harder
than us, it’s actually bad. And to answer a part of the
question about homework, as far as that goes, some
therapists believe in it while others don’t. Those who do believe in it
tend to be more like me. They’re more behavioral,
directed type of therapists. Others are more talk therapy based where they believe that talking it out and getting feedback in session is enough and that you’ll slowly get to the root of your issues that way. So, consider what style you may like prior to seeing a therapist and now that you can ask questions before making your first appointment. You can even ask them to
email you their resume so you can see where
they got their training, their education, you can
ask what styles of therapy they practice, and you can even ask how they’d treat the issue that
you’re maybe struggling with or what you’re wanting to work on. All of that is completely okay and those are your rights in therapy. So don’t be shy. Remember, you’re hiring them to help you. So ask questions and pick
someone that you feel will help you the most. And the fourth part of your question about trusting in the therapeutic
process, that takes time. It takes time to feel comfortable
talking with someone new and getting into the real work. That’s why I always encourage you to ask to create a treatment plan together as soon as possible. This will not only empower
you in the process, but it can ensure that
you are both working towards the same goals. This allows you to check
up on your therapy, see what progress is being made, but if you prefer a less
structured type of therapy, it’s also okay just to
request to do check-ins with your therapist about your progress and your process every
couple of months or so or whatever feels good to you. But letting them know
if you’re feeling tired, overwhelmed, or like what you’re doing and what you’re working on isn’t actually making you feel better, it’s important that we work together with our therapist and let them know that so that we can get the
most out of time together because if they don’t
know how we’re feeling, if we’re really doing well or struggling or if what we’re working
on is truly important, we won’t really get the
full benefit from therapy. The last think I wanna mention
is that if we feel ourselves getting worse, please
let your therapist know. It’s not a bad thing to be doing worse. It actually gives us more
information about you and what you’re struggling with and it can also tell us that the tools or things we’ve been working
on aren’t helping enough. Maybe they’re not the right ones. So, we may need to increase
our sessions each week, possibly get into a
more intensive program, like a day program or adding in a group, whatever it may be, because therapy isn’t about making your therapist proud of you or worrying that they’ll be
upset about your progress, therapy is about you, you
getting the right help that you need when you need it most. So be as honest as you can, find someone that you truly connect with because therapy can be
such a life-changing and importantly a life-improving thing. So, make the most of it. This video has been brought to you by the Kinions on Patreon. If you would like to support the creation of these mental health videos, click the link in the
description and check it out. Please let me know in
those comments down below if I forgot something or
if you have other tips and tricks about what to expect in therapy and how you were able to trust
in the process altogether, because with your
experience and my expertise, we will keep working
towards a healthy mind and a healthy body. And I will see you next time, bye.

Comments

(100 Comments)

  • TherapyCable

    Great assessment, Kati! You inspire us with your work!

  • Scarlet Santiago

    I want to…but I'm scared that my parents will get mad at me…

  • Emily Brewer

    I really liked it when you said "Therapy is not about saying you're getting better just so that your therapist will be proud of you." I feel like I struggle with that sometimes. Anyone else?

  • Florence H

    Thank you for posting this! I’m actually just starting therapy for the first time and this gives me some useful knowledge. 🙂

  • Jamie Smith

    Thank you!

  • iLiveInHarmony

    I decided I wanted to become a therapist my freshman year of high school. I’m now 21, one class away from having an associates, and still wanting to be a therapist.
    However I’m terrified that I’m not smart enough for grad school. I’m terrified that I won’t do well, or I won’t pass my exams, or that I won’t be good at my job. I’m also terrified that paying back my loans is going to be too much of a financial burden (as I’m paying it all myself). I’m constantly wondering and worrying if I’ll be able to handle it all. But it’s the only career that I know for a fact I want to do. I want to help people.
    Do you have any advice on how to ease some of these fears? Is it normal to be this worried?
    (Also sorry this is so long !). Thank you

  • Aisha Al Khalifa خليفية وايلية

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart Kati.. 💕I'm learning so much from you and going for therapy to better myself.. Watching you from Bahrain 🇧🇭

  • Kristi Durbidge

    Perfect timing for this video as my therapist and i had a "check in" with each other this week and it was good to discover we are both very much on the same page and this video just reinforces everything i think about my therapy journey and that i think i have the right therapist for me. Im not sure if it has been asked before but it would be fantastic if you could please do a video on how to deal with family and friends "opinions" on you seeing a therapist in quite a negative way ie "why are you going?' " you don't NEED to go, DO YOU?" etc etc. Ive been experiencing this recently and i always feel like a child who's doing the wrong thing when comments are made……..like im disappointing people by trying to look after my mental health (and i do have diagnosed mental health disorders). Thankyou so much.

  • Camilo

    Look: you are going to be doing 90 percent % of the job, therapy do close to nothing to help you, belive me…
    1 you know the problem.
    2 you know how to heal you.
    3 do it.
    4 do not pay so much money to this persons for cry your worries or sadness.
    5 love yourself for what you are, not for what you dream about yourself.
    6 if you need medication take it.
    7 do things that you like… if you don!t like them any more, give them only 30 minutes of work, belive me they are going to be 200% better than before…
    8 nothing is so terrible, not our pain, nor our deaths, live happy, the best you can, in the life you have.

  • Iva Pivalica

    This video could not have come at a better time! I am currently looking into speaking with a therapist and I wasn't sure what questions to ask. Now I know! Thanks Kati!

  • GlossyLake

    You should turn your videos into podcasts!

  • Olivia Eff

    Thanks.

  • maya

    Hi, your videos are really helpful, and this is off the topic of the video, but I kind of have a dilemma. My friend and I are currently really concerned about another one of our friends. At this point, it's evident that she's getting or has some sort of eating disorder. She counts calories, skips meals, and has lost at least 15 pounds within about 6ish months (from what she said). She talks about feeling like an outcast and hating herself.

    Her parents went through an unhealthy and messy divorce about 2 years ago, and its evident that she most likely formed the eating disorder because of that. However, she was in therapy before, and she isn't now, and she needs it. But, she isn't independent of her parents, shes only 13. So she can not see a therapist on her own, and her parents won't take her to one because of their insurance, but its also obvious that her parents are really oblivious to her struggling, and they don't seem to care.

    Now, it looks like I may be doing a group, summer, therapy session type thing for teenage girls with her. It's at my therapist office, and I told her it was for me, and I didn't want to do it alone, but she admitted she thinks she would benefit from it. At this point, I've told my therapist and my parents about it, the summer thing was my mom's idea; I've been too caught up in my own problems to have a chance to talk about it more with my therapist, but my friend and I believe its escalating as it usually would in this situation. I have no idea what to do, I know we should tell her parents, but my mother and hers aren't close, and now that school is over she can't go to the school therapist, and didn't want to before. If you have any advice, I would really appreciate it.

  • Kwynn Alge

    I just wanted you to know that your channel has helped me to recover through almost all of my mental health disorders. You are very calm, validating, encouraging, and accepting in ALL of your videos. You make recovery seem encouraging and your knowledge on so many topics is very helpful.

  • anabelleb99

    Kati your videos have help me so much on say where I can’t get ahold of my personal therapist so I appreciate you and your uploads so much thank you

  • asmr short

    Your the best Kati,THE BEST !

  • Marv 1236

    Do female therapists have more female patients? And if yes why is that? (Same for men)

  • Rinana

    Hey is it normal for your therapist to let you off because they "cant find a reason for you to be here"?

    It hit a sore spot especially after i was let off after several months. It's been 2 months and I've been too scared to approach another therapist, i was made to feel like my issues were trivial.

  • Maryam Alhaqq

    You’re videos are always helpful but this video is extremely helpful.

  • LoveLifeSunshine

    Great video! I just recently came across your channel, curious is here a way people can book sessions with you?

  • Jenna Cook

    Please do a video on teen vs adult ADHD!

  • a1chera_

    Idk whether I'm just unlucky and have been matched up with lousy therapists or if its my fault. In general therapy for me always consists of me talking about how difficult my life is, and them telling me everything is okay or that I need to change and be more normal. I think some problems are just unsolvable and we need help with acceptance and strategies for reducing the amount of suffering rather trying to get us to conform into something we aren't even capable of. Just my 2 cents..

  • marjolein van ingen

    Love the shirt!

  • Zee Zee

    Years of living with a toxic family and still living in this environment and my therapist is frustrated and annoyed that I am still feeling hopeless after only 2.5 months of therapy! Maybe I should stop wasting their time and mine. I dont want to be an annoyance

  • FujoshiPeanut

    I was caught off guard when I was asked what I want out of therapy. And I guess that might sound weird but I kinda assumed they'd know I just don't want to feel the way I do anymore

  • LitcheTheArsm

    can you please address the very valid criticism you recieved on your video autism in females from the autistic community.

  • DaveDavis126

    Good information , thank you

  • Emma

    Love your shirt!

  • Nora cola

    Hey Kati! I abolutely love your videos. And I hope that you can adress the issue of why people rape? I wonder why people do this, and I wonder if they feel bad afterwards or are they monsters?

  • Regina

    Hi! 🙂 I really love your videos, you're an amazing person ❤️ Can you make a video about 13 reasons why? I mean, about the 2 season. I'd love to hear your opinion about it 🙂

  • Stephen Powdexter

    For a minute I thought she said "what did you expect from therapy.?"

  • KassandraLea _

    I have some insight as well based on experience as someone who has been in therapy. I know every therapist is different though. Be prepared that your therapist is not going to agree with everything you say. Nor should they. You should be open to the possibility that there are things you should work on. They aren’t being mean or judgmental (I mean some may be but most aren’t). I think sometimes people equate disagreement or a different way of thinking with being judgmental when it’s really not. It’s just giving you the other side of the coin. I mean we all go to therapy for a reason right? Usually it means we need to change our way of thinking in some way so be open to that. It can be uncomfortable to admit our own part of the “problem”, but sometimes that can be a good thing. I totally agree with the “you should be doing more work than the therapist” part. Therapy doesn’t work unless you are putting out an effort.

  • Jeannie Drago

    #KatiFAQ I think it would be awesome if you made a video specifically about things you can try when you feel like you have tried everything. For a long time I felt like I had already exhausted all of my options because I had tried the most common treatment methods… but there were SO many options that I just couldn't see from where I was.

  • Jacob Ax

    Hey kati can you make a video on getting foster parents? Please, and thank you sooo much

  • Steven Pugh

    What to expect: if your therapist tells you it is okay to tell them “I love you” and to tell your psychiatrist that as well – run away fast and far.

    After things will probably end badly like they did for me, have a lawyer check over your complaint letter to the state board. I didn’t, my ex-therapist didn’t even get a warning.

  • EmuEmi

    Hi Kati,
    Question. Is there any helpful information I could get regarding my birth trauma? This being, I had given birth to my daughter back in 2011 and ever since, I've been dissociating 24/7 (I don't remember what it's like to not) and how to cope with extreme phobias now centered around that trauma? LIke doctors, medications, sickness. It's hard to feel medically safe when my brain is never here.

  • Jack and 1069 others

    Hi im 11 im cutting and i trust you when my mother found out she was mad she just Said stop when my friend found out she was worried and wanted to help so my Best friend is kinda a mother for me…

  • Silke Strael

    So happy discovered you!!!!!!!!😢

  • Amaris Garza

    I just started watching her videos to see if maybe therapy is something I should look into when I can and all that happened was me randomly crying at different parts of the video…

  • peach xo

    my experience with my first therapist was not ideal because i didn’t feel comfortable telling her what did and didn’t work for me. she asked me to do on the spot improvisation and other things that just made me uncomfortable and embarrassed. if i had seen this video beforehand, i would’ve been better prepared! great video as always kati <3

  • Neeshpeesh123

    Ooh nice top Katie!

  • Franki Kootcher

    I need a new therapist very badly. I feel like I know more than my therapist does. She neglected to report something major. Our therapeutic relationship isn’t the best. I just don’t know what to do.

  • danesook

    I'm looking for a therapist for the first time, and I'm just not sure how to go about it. There's a couple I want to contact, and I can either call or email. If I email, what kind of information should I provide? Do I ask to set up an appointment or should it just be basic information so they know if they can help me? I'd really appreciate it if anyone could share their experience/the process of getting a therapist.

  • Little Sailor Emily

    Hi Kati and everyone💖 I am trying to help others with mental health feel less alone with my poems 💕 I uploaded my first video and it would mean so much if it helped someone 💜 Kati, thank you so much for doing what you do. You help so many people. Keep being you😊

  • Rachel Cox

    Hi Kati, I was wondering if you could make a video about eating disorders that aren't to do with negative body image or weight?

  • Dr Cringe

    Amazing video! Amazing quality as well! I mean I did put in the 4k setting and it pretty much destroyed my computer!

  • Elle Wayne

    Hi Kati, I've been looking a looot for resources about jobs and careers that are good for people who struggle with mental illness and I just wanted to suggest that I think that'd be a great video idea! I think it'd be so helpful, I and I'm sure sooo many others feel super lost and intimated when it comes to work and mental health struggles. Thank you! Your channel has made my fight so much easier, you do amazing work.

  • Nkwnntm

    On the way to my first appointment I had an anxiety attack and that was months ago and i cancelled it. I haven’t gone back since. I feel like I need it but I don’t know what to do

  • Bins Q

    I adore therapy as you know and I'm just finding for no reason I can see, the harder the things I discuss, the better I feel overall regardless of whether those things are actually getting better (they aren't yet). I'm not sure they ever will but therapy is marvellous. My psychologist is a BOSS! 🙂

  • Mário Henrique Cotrim

    Kati, can you please talk about hypochondriacs? I love your approach on bpd, it's helped me so much, now I have this friend in intense crisis and would really like to know how to deal with it. He intends to make it to a psychologist, and I think he will. He thinks he has cancer, it's been a struggle showing that I validate his emotions without joining his paranoia.

  • Marta Escobar

    …are you an mtf?

  • Sarah Stridgeon

    Hi Kati. I hope you can answer my question.

    Is it normal to feel like you go to therapy and only go through the surface issues, maybe one or two of the 'easier' or 'less impactful' issues and then the therapist seems like "oh yeah thats sorted off you go" type of thing… When deep down you know there's a can of worms to be opened.

    For example, you talk about your social phobias or anxiety or family issues or mood but never get to the deep rooted stuff or things that have dragged on more/caused more suffering such as childhood traumas or long long long term eating disorder issues which have been "swept under the rug" almost. Is this normal? And who is responsible for not reaching the deep stuff. Is it me the client for not being forthcoming or the therapist for not noticing there's more or asking the 'right' questions. How can this be overcome because I feel after having person focused counselling twice (different professionals) & a long course of cbt I have resolved and improved many 'surface issues' but the therapy 'techniques' 'help' quickly crumble away due to other related issues/behaviours & deeper rooted issues & traumas?

    Also, has anyone else experienced this top layer feeling treatment?!

  • Kat Fairaway

    I really need help finding a therapist. I need someone who can offer me practical and strategic advice to plan out actions for me. I am extremely creative and have so many ideas – but end up thinking more than taking action or spending time doing things that aren't moving me toward my goals. I do know that mostly therapists offer emotional help, unpacking feelings and experiences to help integrate those things and to help offer healthier coping skills. What kind of counselor offers the kind of help I'm describing?

  • go eagles

    Most doctors or shrinks I seee either tell me there is nothing they can do for me or I get perscribed some zombie meds and that's it.

  • Christopher Brigham

    Sadly,

    I find myself having an excuse for everything that goes wrong in my life… yet I offer no solutions. Its almost as if I'm trapped inside the cabin of a Ferris wheel of thoughts. Constantly being shown the most stunning view of the Rocky Mountain range, yet never a chance to experience more of them. I never get a opportunity to  understand the geography of it, or feel the dirty crush between my hands. I'm simply given a view of it all, until the ferris wheel decides to bring my cabin back to the base of its structure. Where it has always been stationed to the concrete below. I want to say that I don't really enjoy being trapped on this endless ride, but for some reason I find myself indulging on every second that goes by on it. I do however enjoy distracting myself time and time again with the rust that's been growing on the outside of my cabin. Wondering how I could possibly scrape off the rust when I've always been imprisoned inside. Before I can even start to figure it all out, I arrive at the top of the Ferris wheel. I'm given the most beautiful view of the Grand Canyon once again.

  • Lauren Goldman

    Hi Kati! Can you do a video on hypersomnia? And how do you know it’s hypersomnia vs. your body just needing a lot of sleep? If you are trying to develop a more normal or average sleep schedule, how do you go about doing that when you are used to oversleeping?

  • Mythical Being

    What should you expect from therapy:
    A con-artist, a narcissist, a shell game, and a pill pusher.

    😛

  • Neja

    Hey Kati, I'm kinda new here but your videos helped me a lot. I'm a first year in high school and am now in the process of getting therapy. I've been feeling down for months, not eating because I don't have an appetite, not being able to sleep, losing interest in the things I loved – like drawing and painting, I've also had suicidal thought and have thought about sh. I told my mom that I want to go to therapy and told her a few of the things I struggle with for context (excluding the sh and suicidal thoughts) and she told me that it's just my hormones acting up and that it'll get better, to just deal with it. I don't know what to do. I would appreciate some feedback. Thanks ^^

  • Eleanor Lumsden

    I'm a university student and have been to the 6 counseling sessions that they are available to give per year but after a wile of being on another waiting list things are getting worse again. I really care about the environment and i want to do more I feel like its a really odd thing to cause issues but I don't feel like I'm doing anything about it and I think that this is leading to some of my issues. Iv never really explained it before but when I have tried so often I get told that I need to work on myself first, and that im in uni and I can do something after, but I cant leave it alone. I feel like nobody is listening, and there is nothing I can do?

  • Sad Lad

    Hi, I've been wondering for a while now if something is wrong with me. It's just that I don't really feel anything and it just seems harder to talk to people, like ordering a pizza makes me feel kind of sick but it didn't before. I have also been saying "kill me now" or something similar for that last few months really often and I can't really tell if I mean it or not- it started out as a joke in class but now I'm not so sure. Is this normal? Should I be seeing someone about this, I don't trust the school councillors so what should I do?

  • Mel Bilecky

    how often should I be meeting with my therapist? Is there a standard? Once/week?

  • Mel Bilecky

    Also, what if I cannot afford therapy or additional sessions? Where do I get help?

  • Max Imumaccupancynotexeed120persons

    Hey Kati you talked about when you should get in to therapy and now what to expect from therapy. Could you make a video about when you start to considder stopping with therapy. 🤔
    Keep up the good work as always 😘

  • Celery

    Honestly I'm scared to start therapy..I don't know if i would be able to talk to people about the things that I try to hard to hide and not talk about

  • Allie Andersen

    Hey Kati– you should do another video on PMS and PMDD!! I enjoyed the others👍🏻. Your Instagram stories are great, love them! Love you Kati!!

  • Gabriel Tupas

    Thank you for this Kati!:)

  • Joy Rose

    it's better not to expect anything from therapy. I've been in for 4 years and finally realizing just talking doesn't fix problems. some problems are permanent and unfixable, if you've got a specific trauma to work through or something it can be helpful, but if you have chronic illnesses and Major Depression it can become pretty pointless.

  • kayla renee

    Is it normal to cry on the first session? Cuz I'm pretty sure I'll do that my first time lol

  • Lou Daprile

    I've just started seeing a psychodynamic therapist. Could you talk about that in a video?

  • Daniel Hyde

    This was really helpful, thank you!

  • Abhishek Prajapati

    Love you @kati you are an inspiration for me as I'm also in process of becoming a Psychologists

  • Stand Up

    Where do we ask questions for Kati? I’m wondering if she could cover the topic of what to do when a therapist dies? I’ve been devastated at the thought of starting over and it’s tragic because she had seen both of my parents through their divorce. Sometimes I feel like no one will ever understand now.

  • Alice Walker

    Hi Kati, great topic. I would also love to hear you talk about good questions to ask a potential new therapist to help pick the right professional for you. Both questions to ask yourself and questions to ask the therapist 🗒 ✨

  • Maria S

    If I seek help, will my past abuser get reported? How can I get help without this happening?

  • It’s Hailey!

    So I start therapy sometime this month because I got charged with simple assault. And they told me they will drop the charges if I did therapy . I know what your thinking how did I get simple assault , well I’m 14 and I was getting on the bus on my way home and this kid that sits in front of me always pokes me and grabs my book bag , so one day I just snapped and slapped him , then I got suspended for a day and got charged with simple assault …. now I have to do therapy because I apparently have “anger management “ for something literally so stupid.

  • uPubs

    I don’t eat much like a few crackers and it keeps getting smaller each day I punch myself in the head and I don’t feel things only anger cuz my girl left me with my son and I am going nowhere in my life it feels like I’m in a hole and can’t get out also I cut I burn and I’m constantly angry I have no way of controlling my anger when it happens

  • The Behaviourist Guy

    That's pretty much it…Thanks

  • Lauren-Eva M

    How do people usual deal with the fear of getting better in therapy?

  • Alli Myers

    Hey Kati! Question for you. Something happened to me 12ish years ago. From then till I graduated high school(a year ago) I wasn't ready to talk about it with anyone really. Now I believe I'm ready to start talking about it, but I think that its been to long to talk to someone about it. Is it too late to try to talk to a counselor about what happened?

  • T gh

    Can you talk about if it’s possible to grow without therapy?

  • Jinwan min

    #KatiFAQ

    Hello, your videos are so very helpful.
    I would like your opinion.
    My parents are fighting with each other alot.
    I suffer with alot of panic attacks and get very scared of public places.
    I want to tell a therapist but im afraid that my parents will find out and think im weak or baby me
    My mother would baby me
    My father would think it ridiculous
    What should i do ( talk to a therapist or not )?

  • Megui Ramos

    Hi kati, i would like to bring up to my therapyst that i'm unconfortable and i don't like when people hug me because i don't like to feel that people love me and it really hurts me because my friends love hugs but i just give that unconfortable hugs because i just can't give the love back, but i can't bring it up when i'm in therapy because i just had a few sessions and i still fell that when i think how i'm going to bring it up it will just be akward and i will sound stupid
    (I'm portuguese so if the english isn't the best to understand i'm sorry)
    Love your videos

  • Jamie J.

    New to your channel👋 This is AWESOME info and help!!!👍 Thank you so much!! 💖

  • DrumWild

    I initially expected a cure for my Asperger's, after I got the diagnosis six months ago, just before my 53rd birthday. I was told that this is unreasonable.

    I do expect useful work that will fix how Asperger's has gotten in the way of life for my entire life. I have no expectation that this will happen.

    So if I decide that I want a cure for Asperger's, then I can get it?

  • Alayna

    My physiologist kind of just talks about music with me and sometimes i take my ukulele to play with while he plays his guitar. Its been a good three months with him and hes a great person to vent to but idk i feel like if he gave me homework to do id be doing a lot better. Thank you for this video 🙌

  • Cole Morrison

    My school is hiring a therapist and the psychologist wants me to start seeing them this year. I'm really anxious because I've don't know how to talk about my feelings and I'm not good at explaining anything that I want to. I've never had parents who cared about my feelings and always just rolled their eyes whenever I brought up something to talk to them about. I dont know how to talk to adults specifically. its easier for me to talk to a friend or someone my age. I know I need therapy, im extremely mentally unstable and no one knows the full extent, but the idea of therapy terrifies me. Help???

  • Terry loved cali

    I'm hesitant to get help. Kaiser is nor the best insurance . I'm on the verge of losing my job . Counseling seems like a waste of time ,I know I need help but I don't think they can. It sounds common, but they won't get it or understand me .they'll just put me in group ,yup. I never shake it completely for decades now. I don't trust people enough to be open. Good videos btw..lol, I don't even understand myself of what is going through my head all the time so how do I know what I want to get out of it.

  • SmileZone

    I wonder what is a Mental Health Counselor?

  • Ray Wood

    Thank you Kati! I would not have felt comfortable asking questions about a potential therapist before I watched this. So I did and found out the first one they suggested didn't have the specialty training I want but the second one did.

  • Hannah Campo

    Cute shirt like really cute

  • soraccii

    i’m too scared to tell people i need help. i don’t know why i cant tell anyone. i just can’t.

  • samiamisme

    How do you leave one therapist, (who is very nice, my first therapist, but I just don't think I'm getting the things I want from her) and begin seeing a psychiatrist? The thought of confrontation and ruminating negative thoughts/hurt feelings, is giving me huge anxiety. I don't know what to do. I don't know if it's the depression talking, or am I not communicating well, etc. Btw….where can we submit questions for Kati to address? Thanks!💗

  • Dr. Phil

    I went to my fist appointment today. It felt unproductive and pointless.

  • Shaymaa Refaat

    I am always trust on My therapist and also they aren't annoyed to ask and know more

  • Ann Fitzgerald

    you're very charged up and can't stop talking–methinks you're bi-polar

  • Jacob Nicodemus

    Have been enjoying your videos!! I’ve been to various therapists over the years, on probably my 6th now. They’ve all been similar in that they mostly just sat and listened without providing feedback. It felt a bit pointless with occasional (rare) helpful moments. My current therapist, I’ve been seeing 2-3 months, and she’s amazing. For the first time, I feel like the therapist and I are collaborating to help me. We are both working towards a common goal. Much, much different than I’ve experienced.

  • Y5F Danq

    I had my first theropy session today and I have found it (Btw I have Anxiety and deppresion) but my person was amazing but I have a question why do they ask the same question because I had one question that he asked atleast 15 times throughout the 50 minutes why is this I would love anyone to help me

  • Thefruit Dude

    I like your yellow top. That looks soo good 🙂

  • shmutube

    This is really great and clarifying! I really just wish there was some top 20 things to consider "working on" list so I'm not so damn overwhelmed to begin with! Ugghhh… :-/

  • Marissa Bergeron

    Thank you for the video. I have been waiting for my therapist to guide me and sometimes it feels like we go in circles even though I always have more to bring up every time.

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