WHY DO I FEEL SAD? ★ How Emotions Work ★ The Psychology of Feelings (Mind Hack)

Hello, Everyone, I’m Daniel Love, The Lucid
Guide. Today we’re going to venture into new territory
and explore an aspect of the human mind familiar to us all, namely Emotions. We’ll be exploring what your emotions mean
and how best to deal with the ever changing landscape of human feelings. Human emotions shape our world, be it art,
wars, culture or the shifting events of our day-to-day lives, feelings are everywhere
and form the basis of many of our experiences. Yet, for many of us, our emotions remain a
mystery, while they orchestrate the choices and direction of our lives, few of us would
be able to claim any mastery over our feelings. One of the reasons behind this is a skewed relationship
towards them, in general most people consider their emotions as something solid, something tangible
– almost as if they are a destination that has been reached. We use language such as “In Love” or “filled
with anger”, and generally we operate as if our feelings are something that happen to
us – we’ll say “I’m happy” or “She’s jealous”. A more healthy and practical approach is to
reframe our relationship with our emotions. Importantly, the first step is to reassess
our perspective. For the rest of the animal kingdom, we have
another word for emotions – “Instinct” – and this simple change of terminology we help ourselves to consider the emotions of other creatures in a more objective and realistic manner. We see them for what they are, hormonally
triggered responses. A form of biological programming. Although this may all seem too clinical for
the deep and complex passions of us humans, one thing is certainly shared – the biological basis of
our feelings. With this in mind, it’s important to consider
our feelings as something other than state or destination that is reached – one doesn’t
“find love” or “get upset” – instead it is better to consider your feelings as
signposts, useful guides that reflect your current position in regards to the inherent
drives and goals that nature has programmed within you. Emotions, like real world signs, are signifiers
– they can act as rewards, warnings, information transfer tools and guidance. It’s important to remember that they reflect
your life’s circumstance, and not to mistake them for the circumstance. Importantly, as with any signpost, an emotion
is just a suggestion, one doesn’t need to follow its directions. For example, happiness is generally a sign
that one is following a healthy and rewarding path. Sadness, the opposite. When one feels sad, rather than consider it a destination that has been reached, consider it a nudge to move your life in a new direction. One far away from that particular signpost. Another useful analogy for emotions is that
of light. Imagine the very varied moods that can be
achieved in any room by a simple act of changing the lighting. From bright and airy daylight, dark and sinister,
romantic candle light, or the excitement of flashing disco lights. In all cases, the physical properties of the
room do not change, yet the lighting draws attention to, or away from, certain aspects. Emotions are the lighting of the mind – be
you sad, happy, in love, or angry – the world itself has not changed – only the perspective caused
due to the light cast by your emotions. Using this simple reframing of your relationship
towards your emotions can be a hugely freeing experience. Rather than being a slave to them,
it allows you to see them as the helpful signposts that they are. Emotions are not a destination, they’re
not a place that you are trapped within, nor do you have to submit to their power – they are
a natural hint, a signpost, that if heeded – can help you navigate to a healthier and
more fulfilled life. So, the next time you’re overwhelmed by
a feeling – remind yourself that it is a message, a sign. And you can choose to pay attention to it
or not. You can also use it to reassess your current
circumstances and decide if your life choices are moving you in the direction that you’d like. Once again, remember, emotions are not a destination, they are guiding scenery, the spices of life, that when viewed as helpful tools will aid you
in your advenure through this world. So, if you’ve enjoyed this video, why not
follow the signpost of that feeling and click the like button. As always remember to share and subscribe. Or, if you’re feeling lovely, support
these videos on Patreon. Links are in the video description. You may also be interested in reading my brand
new book “Lucid: The Tao of Dreaming”, which is available now from all good bookstores. So, that’s it for today,
I’m Daniel Love, The Lucid Guide, and until next time, sweet dreams.



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